Dean DeMass
Screenwriter
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- Jun 30, 1997
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Many of you know of my recent divorce, especially Sean (I hope everything is going well). I have really begun to get on with my life and I am now going to be making a big change in my life. It might not be big for some folks, but for me it is (I'll get to that in a bit).
For the last couple of weeks my ex-wife and I have gotten along better than we ever have, it is actually really weird. When I stopped by the house on Saturday to pick up my mail, we had a great 2 1/2 hour long conversation. The weird thing was we were talking about relationships with other people. I was giving her advice on men and she was giving me advice on women. I told her about a girl I had met at a bar up in Chicago but she was engaged to be married. We chatted for awhile and I think she got a bit nervous because we were hitting it off so well. I didn't really persue, but I wish I did.
My ex then tells me that I should have been a bit bold and actually asked her for her number.
I then was telling her how this past week I finally felt ready to meet and date new women. I have been out several times since splitting up, but I was never really out to do anything except have a fun. Well, I noticed on Friday night that when I was checking things out that I was actually being checked out by several very gorgeous girls. I told my ex this and how I was kind of shocked. She asked why? I told her I know I am confident with my looks and appearance, but I guess I was just not expecting a lot of interest. Even my friend who I was with kept pointing this out to me (something like this really helps the confidence). She told me that when we were together and we went places that this would happen and I just never noticed. I have always been shy when it comes to talking to girls, but that has changed. I now have the attitude if you don't go for something, you will never know what you may have just missed out on. Hell, you could pass up on the girl of your dreams because you were too afraid to talk to her.
Now comes the big step. I have decided that after my house is sold I am moving out of my quiet town in Northwest Indiana and moving to Chicago. I have always loved the city and I already work there, so it really is a no-brainer for me. I have nothing holding me back after my house is sold and I cannot wait to get an apartment and live in a place I have always dreamed of living in. To me this is a big step even though I am only moving about an hour away. The amount of things to do and the amount of people to meet in Chicago is incredible and I am looking forward to the great experience.
I can honestly say I am over my marriage. I do still love my ex-wife and I will miss out on all of the fun we had together. But after talking more and more with her, we both realize that this had to happen. We both no longer want to be married, we both agree we got married too young and that we rushed into things way too fast. I want to date other women and not be tied down right now. We agreed that we will stay friends with each other and keep in touch now and then. We both agreed that one day our paths may cross again and after living our own lives for awhile, we may live a good life togehter.
All I know is I am 27 years old and I have a lot of life to live. Thanks for the support everyone, it really did help. I also appreciate all the advice I was given, if you have any more, feel free to give it.
-Dean-
For the last couple of weeks my ex-wife and I have gotten along better than we ever have, it is actually really weird. When I stopped by the house on Saturday to pick up my mail, we had a great 2 1/2 hour long conversation. The weird thing was we were talking about relationships with other people. I was giving her advice on men and she was giving me advice on women. I told her about a girl I had met at a bar up in Chicago but she was engaged to be married. We chatted for awhile and I think she got a bit nervous because we were hitting it off so well. I didn't really persue, but I wish I did.
My ex then tells me that I should have been a bit bold and actually asked her for her number.
I then was telling her how this past week I finally felt ready to meet and date new women. I have been out several times since splitting up, but I was never really out to do anything except have a fun. Well, I noticed on Friday night that when I was checking things out that I was actually being checked out by several very gorgeous girls. I told my ex this and how I was kind of shocked. She asked why? I told her I know I am confident with my looks and appearance, but I guess I was just not expecting a lot of interest. Even my friend who I was with kept pointing this out to me (something like this really helps the confidence). She told me that when we were together and we went places that this would happen and I just never noticed. I have always been shy when it comes to talking to girls, but that has changed. I now have the attitude if you don't go for something, you will never know what you may have just missed out on. Hell, you could pass up on the girl of your dreams because you were too afraid to talk to her.
Now comes the big step. I have decided that after my house is sold I am moving out of my quiet town in Northwest Indiana and moving to Chicago. I have always loved the city and I already work there, so it really is a no-brainer for me. I have nothing holding me back after my house is sold and I cannot wait to get an apartment and live in a place I have always dreamed of living in. To me this is a big step even though I am only moving about an hour away. The amount of things to do and the amount of people to meet in Chicago is incredible and I am looking forward to the great experience.
I can honestly say I am over my marriage. I do still love my ex-wife and I will miss out on all of the fun we had together. But after talking more and more with her, we both realize that this had to happen. We both no longer want to be married, we both agree we got married too young and that we rushed into things way too fast. I want to date other women and not be tied down right now. We agreed that we will stay friends with each other and keep in touch now and then. We both agreed that one day our paths may cross again and after living our own lives for awhile, we may live a good life togehter.
All I know is I am 27 years old and I have a lot of life to live. Thanks for the support everyone, it really did help. I also appreciate all the advice I was given, if you have any more, feel free to give it.
-Dean-