Okay here is the deal. I've been with my significant other for over 6 years without ever stepping out on him or cheating not even once. Lately we have been having some trouble (okay, for the last 3 years) of not only an emotional nature but also of a sexual nature. Please don't think by my posting this that I don't care about him. I do, which is why I am so confused right now. We recently met a married couple who we really get along with great. We go over to their house for cook outs and just to hang out and go clubbing together on a weekly basis. Not too long ago something happened out of the blue and my friends husband started like innocently flirting with me. She doesn't seem to see it or either that she doesn't really care. They've been together for 13 years and she flirts with everyone in the bars. I guess they've both cheated on each other before but she's really insecure and gets mad at him for doing the same thing she does with everyone else, but I digress. Recently he began to rub my legs under the table while we are all sitting there talking. I feel kind of bad that I didn't say anything but what's worse is I feel bad because I liked it. I'm very attracted to him. I know I'll probablly get flamed for this, but hell, I'm human and have had problems with my guy for over 3 years that aren't being taken care of regardless of how many times I try to discuss things with him. Anyway, this guy and I walked outside for some fresh air and he pressed up against me and to my shock, and utter complete horror I heard myself say out loud: "Don't do that unless you're serious" WTF???????? I couldn't believe I said that. It's so unlike me. Thats when he said he WAS serious and began to tell me how much he's attracted to me. He could tell that there are problems in my relationship and basically said it looked like me and my guy were more room mates than lovers. After we all left the bar we ended up going to their house for a night cap. He asked me what I wanted to drink and I didn't know so I went into the kitchen to see what they had. My man and his wife were in the living room watching tv and I was with him in the kitchen. He totally caught me off gaurd when he pushed me up against the wall and began kissing me, I kissed back and all I could think was oh S--t! What if one of them walks in here? He's a cop so I guess his ears are trained for such things because he kept on. Now heres the thing, I feel bad because I LIKE his wife, but then again I get so mad at the way she treats him. She's had affairs on him and flirts with EVERYONE yet treats him so badly and I think he's getting tired of it and just figures heck, if I'm going to get accused of things I'm not doing then I might as well do them. For me, I think this was just so sudden that I was taken up in it. I know he doesn't care for me like that. We are good friends but I don't want to F up this friendship but yet I can't stop thinking about him. I don't know what to do. Just walk away and end the friendship? I don't even know how serious he is about things, he may just be flirting for all I know with no intentions of backing anything up. I know they will always be together unless she leaves him. He told me that she thinks if she left him that he'd always be alone and have a break down but that he'd find someone the next day and move on, so I don't know exactly whats going on in their marriage. I don't want to tell her, because I'm just as guilty and as much as I'm ashamed to admit it, I wanted something to happen. No, we haven't slept with each other but if this continues I'm afraid it may develop into that, and I don't know exactly what to think or do. I know there are some purist here, but I also know we are all human and that not EVERYONE can tell me that haven't ended up in a like or similar situation with someone where they "thought" about swaying and giving into carnal lust. How do I get myself out of this one? If I were to break off the friendship(s) which I don't want to do, I like both of them, then my man and his wife would wonder why we aren't friends anymore. On the other hand if I continue to see them I feel I'll end up losing my mind because it hurts so much to be next to him and not be able to do anything about it. I actually look forward to seeing him and hate to leave him. Unlike my man he takes an interst in me that I haven't seen in some time in my own personal life which makes me feel good. This is all so risky. How did this happen? Dammit!