MickeS
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Ted, yeah, but if the friendship is making your life worse than it would be without that "friendship", that's where it needs to stop. It's very individual.
/Mike
/Mike
I guess I feel no closure because he didn't give me a chance to explain and he didn't understand my feelings.And he is under no obligation to listen to you. I sympathize, though. I can't tell you how many times I thought of a new way to explain things and try to heal this particular damaged, dysfunctional friendship. It did not happen, and over time, I came to accept that.
Good luck,
Steve
Only when I confronted him about his sexuality did the friendship begin to decline...it came to the breaking point when I told him I liked him. I probably would not have told him if I were sure he were straight.And this surprises you because...?
This person's reaction is typical of someone who is not gay and does not want to get involved with someone who is. There are other possibilities, of course, but they generally fall under the category of wishful thinking.
I don't want to sound too harsh here to family, but it is presumptious on your part to confront someone about their sexuality. If I were straight and you approached me with "I'm gay, I like you, let's hook up." I would probably also walk away. And on the surface, that is exactly what has happened here.
I think it is time to let go and move on, and to not expect reconciliation.
- Steve
Gay men commonly establish friendships with straight men to whom they are physically attracted.Just for the record, you don't speak for all of us with that comment.
I have many straight male friends and I'm not attracted to any of them. I befriend people whose company I enjoy and with whom I share common interests. Attraction just doesn't factor into it.
However, when making new friends, I personally find it easier to approach men who fit the general profile I like.That's fine, Buzz, so long as you are speaking for yourself and not for all of us. That's my only request.