2nd date too soon to cook dinner?

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  1. Michael Varacin

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    Let me set the scene:

    I met a girl via internet. We met for what was supposed to be a simple dinner....turned out we talked for 2.5 hours until the resturant closed at 11:00PM. This girl was the most beautiful, exotic looking girl I have ever met. See's Laotian. We had lots of those long stares that end in a smile and don't require words...we were digging each other. It ended with a nice kiss after I walked her to her car. She claims she old fashioned and wants to be courted properly, so....

    She is extremely busy...works over 65 hours a week, some times day shift, sometimes night shift. She drives right by my house on the way home. Since she is always very tired, I thought it would be cool to offer to make her dinner at my place one night...she could stop on the way home.

    Is it too soon to ask someone to do this? It would be a second date. I'm thinking it's perfect. Thoughts?
     
  2. Rob Gardiner

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    I've cooked dinner on a first date, on occasion. I don't think there's any rule prohibiting this.

    What are you going to make?
     
  3. Dennis Nicholls

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    I'm sure it depends upon how old you are. I'm 50 so I don't have a lot of time to waste as it were. Plus my hormones aren't exactly working on overtime.
     
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    Funny...I'm 28. My hormones are working over time. Must....find....mate....
     
  5. Don Black

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    Depends on how the first date went... If it went well, then go for it. If it was still a bit awkward, then she might be reluctant to head to your place so soon.
     
  6. Steve_Tk

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    It could be a great idea or turn out terrible. For me, it would depend on how comfortable we felt around each other. If you are not that comfortable then I wouldn't want her in my home.
     
  7. Ted Lee

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    hmm....as always, tough call. you'll need to make a judgement call on this one.

    personally, i kinda think cooking on a second date is a smidgen too early. to me, cooking for a gal means you're really going for it - it could come across as too aggressive.

    but then part of me thinks, wtf ... you should do want you want to. why try to start worrying about all that bs already.

    ya know what? fuggit...go for it dude! the number one thing you gotta remember is just to be yourself.
     
  8. Max Leung

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    Cooking on a date, first or not, should greatly impress anyone! Especially if you are good. [​IMG]

    I don't see a problem. Go for it!
     
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    Sounds like a great first date....go for it!

     
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with it but I'd let her make the first move on anything sexual afterwards. You don't want her to feel that the only reason you wanted her in your house in the first place is so you can get laid (even if it's not far from the truth). Let her set the pace but if she's really into you and comes on strong then don't let anything stop you from proceeding.
     
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    Actually, it depends on how good a cook you are. Don't want to scare her away too quickly, do you? [​IMG]
     
  15. Michael Varacin

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    I'd probably be more comfortable in my home, familiar with the surrounds. I say if you think you are both comfortable with it, go for it...especially if you can make something very nice!

    Good luck. [​IMG]
     
  17. Hunter P

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    I had a friend who was old fashioned. She came to pick something up from my apartment one day but she would not come inside. We were both dating other people at the time so it wasn't like anything was gonna happen. It was just how she was raised.

    Did you ask her if she has a problem being in your place, alone and unchaperoned?

    BTW, what are you gonna cook?
     
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    Since she's Laotian and you'll be cooking, be sure to watch the episode Westie Side Story from the King of the Hill first season set before that second date to avoid mistakes. [​IMG]
     
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