2nd date too soon to cook dinner? (1 Viewer)

[Matt Stryker]

I'm gonna have to agree with Ted and say Too Early. Unless you live somewhere where there are only a few places to eat, i'd save the cooking at home date for the 3rd or 4th.

Not only does it carry some innuendo with it, your place reveals an awful lot about you at once, and usually the relationship isn't that strong by the second meeting. Your tastes, your bad habits, etc. Which aren't necessarily something to hide from a potential mate, but dumping them all on the table at once can be tough to cope with.

Its too bad its winter. Going for a date in the park and then grilling something there afterwards would be a perfect compromise. Or maybe a nice fondue resturant, which gives you plenty of time to cook and eat while you are talking.

Just my $0.02

 

[Matt Gordon]

Michael --

Here's an option nobody's brought up yet:

ASK HER!

Tell her that you'd like to do something nice for her after a long day at work. Tell her you'd like to offer her a nice home-cooked dinner at your place (conveniently right on her way home) with "no strings attached." Then ask her if she would be comfortable with that, because it could be perceived as being too forward. Let her make the decision. You'll get points for asking, because it'll tell her that you cared enough about her opinion to ask rather than just plunge ahead with something may have been very sweet and harmless, but a little intimidating for her.

And then, if dinner led to a backrub... that's cool too!

If you do it: Make sure the place is clean and picked up. Put fresh handtowels out in the bathroom and all that other nice stuff. Maybe some nice flowers for the table (nothing too suggestive, like red roses, but a nice floral arrangement that compliments your decorating scheme). That kind of thing.

 

[DavidAM]

I don't see any problem with it and don't think it's forward either. Go for it. You're just asking her over for dinner, not to spend the night.

 

[Michael Varacin]

Well, I got the green light on her coming over for dinner this weekend. I asked and she said it sounded wonderful.

Matt G. - Funny - I read your post after I asked, but that's the exact approach I took. Worked like a charm.

Now all I have to do is figure out what to cook.

Matt S. - I do see your point...a persons home does say a lot about you. I guess I should take all the pictures of the ex down, hide the porno, turn off the beer signs, and pick my underwear up off the floor. Hehe.

I keep my place spotless, so I'm not worried about what she will think. But I will go over the details, such as the hand towels.

I'll post after the weekend. She mentioned she thought she was getting a cold, so it may have to wait a week. We'll see...

 

[Matt Gordon]

She mentioned she thought she was getting a cold

Homemade chicken soup, perhaps?

 

[Elizabeth S]

Let us know what you cook and how it goes.

 

[Joe Szott]

I like to invite a girlfriend over for dinner, as long as my place is clean and displays a respectable personality. Oh yeah, and my wife needs to be out of town...

Hehe, sounds good Michael. Let us know how it goes.

 

[Cary_H]

Since you're asking.......my opinion runs counter to the others. After such short a time I wouldn't even want her to know where I live, much less have her over.
I'd want to spend a little more time with her in order to get a better feel of things (no pun intended) before I took it to that level.
If you went ahead with this now not knowing all that much around what makes her tick and things started going sideways real quick, you might find yourself wishing you'd given this idea a wee bit more thought.

OTOH, some consolation here....one of my best friends has a Lao girlfriend. She is a real gem, and pretty much the norm among Lao women from what he says, and he probably has a pretty fair handle on this having lived close to 8 years now in the Orient.

 

[Michael Varacin]

Follow up:

She did stop by my house Saturday night on her way home from work. But we agreed that since it would not be until after 8:00PM, there was no need to cook dinner.

So I got out of cooking dinner, yet still had all the joys of her at my place. It went as good, if not better, then I could have imagined. I'm not giving details. :b

 

[Danny Tse]

So you had dessert then? :b

 

[FeisalK]

"I met a girl via internet..." I didn't cook for her until it was too late for her to back out

(I'm a terrible cook, although I make a mean sunny-side-up )

oh yeah.. the 'lil one is almost 2!

p.s Michael, way to go!

 

[Lewis Besze]

Since she is always very tired, I thought it would be cool to offer to make her dinner at my place one night...she could stop on the way home.

I recommend a foot massage instead,and tell her: " me so horny love you long time"!
Sorry couldn't resist!

 

[DonRoeber]

well that's the good kind of follow up. Hope you two continue to have fun together.

 

[brentl]

Too late for dinner at your place EH!! So did you eat out?

Brent

 

[Marco_Chicago]

Too late for dinner at your place EH!! So did you eat out?

 

[wwindwwalker]

Hello, I may be a little late to this conversation but...... I am a 48 year old female and I had a very smilar experience on my first date recently. We totally clicked and it was great, talked for hours, had those long intimate stares etc. I am new to the dating game and have not dated since I was in my 20's so I am not sure of the eticate these days! My date has invited me to his house to cook me dinner for oyr second date. We have had many phone conversations that have lasted for hours. I think it's ok to go on the date as long as I let friends know exactly where I'm going (address etc). One of my friends told me to go for it and enjoy the dinner another friend has warned me and is extremly worried about me going because I have only met him once. He and I met on Match.com and have been conversing since June 2011. We have since gone on one date. I think it's ok to go as long as I take precautions and be smart about it. What do you guys think??