You, your Spouses, and your DVD's

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  1. Brian Kissinger

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    Tonight, after returning home from a viewing of Episode II, I found my wife watching Pretty Woman. After some banter back and forth, I asked why in the world would she be watching this when we have so many movies she hasn't seen. I was just giving her shit because our tastes are extremely different. However, the gauntlet had been thrown down. So we preceded to go through all "our" movies and count. Here is the breakdown.
    Total Movies: 117
    Brian's movies: 105
    Angela's Movies: 12
    I know that seems a bit lopsided, but she doesn't have near the affection for cinema the way I do. Plus, many of "my" movies are ones we both love. I was just the one who purchased them, for my own selfish self.
    Number of movies (of mine) Angela hasn't seen: 37
    Number of movies (of hers) I haven't seen: 2
    So you see, I think I have a much more open mind than she. While she won't come right out and say she plain just won't watch those 37, we both know that unless I "force" her, she won't watch them. However, I will watch hers, if she wants. I won't watch them on my own, but if we're both together I will watch them with her. However, when trying to pick something out, she will most always pass on my 37.
    I know what you're thinking, "What's your point?"
    And Dude, here's my point. We are so different in the area of movies. Sometimes when we do rarely go out to the movies, we will often have to watch our third or fourth choice of movies playing to find one we both agree on. I'm just wondering if anyone here has a spouse or significant other where they are in the same boat. And if so, have you ever managed to turn one to the dark side. No matter how much we watch Princess Bride, she never grows a love for it. She doesn't hate it or dislike it, but she doesn't care all that much for it. On the bright side, I do have her quoting Labyrinth.[​IMG]
     
  2. Lew Crippen

    Lew Crippen Executive Producer

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    I’m not sure if you were expecting any replies, but I have some comments of my own. Probably all of our DVDs would be considered mine. She would likely consider The Red Shoes as hers, but that would be one of the few movies that we really agree about critically.
    It is not that her tastes are bad (in fact, the reverse), just different. Compounding this, she has no interest in seeing most movies a second time, while I can watch my favorites repeatedly.
    And strangely she loves over-the-top, Hollywood and Hong Kong action films, but they have to be of the light-hearted type. So something with Jackie Chan is spot-on but any serious film with that much violence such as The Killer is not on her viewing list at all. And she hates most war movies, having fallen asleep at the opening of Apocalypse Now—more than once.
    And its more complex, as she loves spy movies, especially if they have Nazi’s—so something like Marathon Mar will be at the top of her list. Go figure. [​IMG]
    I do think I enjoy a reasonable number of ‘chick movies’. She would likely disagree. [​IMG]
    Regardless we go to the movies a fair amount. And enjoy the experience, so long as I remember to not critique the movie until after a few days have passed. , as she wants no negative (even reasoned discussion) comments to spoil the experience.
    It took a while for us to reach that accommodation. [​IMG]
    I once, when in college, took a girl to a screening of The Virgin Spring and Wild Strawberries. She is not my wife. [​IMG] And the one who is, loved Scenes from a Marriage and Fanny and Alexander. But she would probably leave the room, were I to put on The Seventh Seal (sort of a been there, done that experience).
    By now, I just go with the flow. [​IMG]
     
  3. Brian Kissinger

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    Thanks Lew. And yes, I was expecting some replies. Perhaps my initial post wasn't clear (my thinking never is), but I am curious how members mesh with their significant others as far as movies go.
     
  4. Rob Tomlin

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    Damn, Brian, that sounds exactly like a conversation that my wife and I have had! Her favorite movie is Pretty Woman, too!
    Total Movies: 104
    Rob's Movies: 99
    Missy's Movies: 5 (all Chick Flicks, including Return to Me, The Wedding Planner, Fools Rush In, etc).
    Like you said Brian, many of "my" movies are also movies that my wife loves too, so it really isn't quite as lopsided as it looks! We do like a lot of the same movies, so I guess I am lucky in that regard. In fact, she just took the afternoon of September 25th off from work so she can go see Lawrence of Arabia with me in 70mm at the Cinerama Dome! [​IMG]
     
  5. Brian Kissinger

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    Holy Sweet Hell. Rob, it would appear that we have much in common. Well, except for taste in movies, sports, pornography, cheese, soda, and which smurf was the coolest. Other than that, I think we may be brothers.
     
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    Brian-

    I thought that our taste in pornography was quite similar, no?
     
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    Rob, you don't even wanna go there! Trust me. [​IMG]
     
  8. Brook K

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    Brook's movies: 275-290 (I've lost count)
    Shelley's movies: 1

    She wouldn't watch most of my movies, doesn't really like watching subtitled films, and when she does watch, 90% of the time she falls asleep.

    We have somewhat similar taste in newer movies if you limit it to American sci-fi or comedies.
     
  9. Brian Kissinger

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    Angela doesn't like watching movies that are in black and white. Not that she won't, but she doesn't care to. I've had debate with her before, and she will watch them with me (sometimes), but more often than not, she passes on them. I can't understand this. She didn't use to care for movies with subtitles, but unfortunately, I've become a bit hard of hearing. So I will usually watch movies with the subtitles on no matter if in English or not. So she has become accustomed to them.

    Granted, in my youth, I wouldn't "seek" out anything with subtitles, but as my maturity and love of movies grew, I watched them more and more. I can't understand some people's refusal to watch them.
     
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    Total count 927. About 90% may not interest the wife at all and chances are she hasn't even seen 50% of them, but we consider all 927 ours.
    Everyone knows I bought them, reproduce the snappers, arrange the shelves but like everything else in the house it belongs to both of us. Of course I could also say they belong to my daughter because eventually they will.
    [​IMG]
     
  11. Rob Tomlin

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  12. Brian Kissinger

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    Hmm, I just wrote about compatibility in movies in another thread. This goes along nicely with that.
    Total movies: 1100 (ish)
    My movies: 20% (such as My Sweet Suicide, The Ice Storm and Ponette)
    His movies: 5% (such as Marx Brothers, The Governess and Legend)
    Our movies: 75% - the rest we both like or love, ranging from 2001 to Fight Club to Real Genius to Moulin Rouge.
    My sympathies to those who don't share a house with a fellow movie buff. As I said in the other thread, it can be done, and you guys are proof, but I'm glad I don't have to deal with it. Hearing your stories makes me even more greatful to my husband for loving movies too. Especially since he can be the Home Theater equipment buff while I get to take care of most of the software (DVDs) and enjoy the end result.
     
  14. george kaplan

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    I'm quite lucky. My wife was into laserdiscs and home theater even before we met. I'm still more into it than she is, but she's fully supportive and likes most of the movies I do. There are a number of films that she doesn't like (Monty Python for instance), but a fairly small percentage. There are only a few films in our collection that are hers, that I don't like (such as Anne of Green Gables). But mostly we both like a wide range of films ranging from action/adventure to musicals. Tonight we watched Pillow Talk, a favorite of both of ours.
     
  15. Rob Tomlin

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    Wow! To have a wife that was not only into movies, but into Laserdiscs before you met is a pretty cool thing!
    I bet her favorite movie is Lawrence of Arabia, and you have been hiding that fact from me all this time, haven't you George!
    [​IMG]
     
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    Sorry Rob, if anything she's less into those types of movies than I am. I don't even bother asking her to watch subtitled movies with me. As a matter of fact, given her very favorites, you'd probably like her taste in films even less than mine. Some of her top, top picks include:

    The Thin Man (all of them)
    Cool Hand Luke
    Dead Men Don't Wear Plaid
    The Postman Always Rings Twice (1946)
    Adam's Rib
    American Graffiti
    Animal House
    The Great Escape
    The Odd Couple
    Road to Utopia
    Bedknobs & Broomsticks
    The Sound of Music
    High Noon
    Double Indemnity
    The Bridge on the River Kwai
    The Apartment
    A Fistful of Dollars
    Rear Window
    Some Like It Hot
    The African Queen
    The Parent Trap (both versions)
    Casablanca
    Kiss Me, Stupid
    The Odd Couple 2
    For a Few Dollars More
    Grumpy Old Men
    Peter Pan
    Jailhouse Rock
    National Lampoon's Vacation
    South Pacific
    Mrs. Doubtfire
    Uncle Buck
    You've Got Mail
    The Shop Around the Corner
    Strangers on a Train
    Father Goose
    Pillow Talk
    Die Hard
    Psycho
    North by Northwest
    Groundhog Day
    Father of the Bride
    The Long, Long Trailer
    Father of the Bride, Part 2
    Young Frankenstein
    Planes, Trains & Automobiiles
    The Bishop's Wife
    It's A Wonderful LIfe
    A Christmas Story
    Miracle on 34th Street
    Scrooged
    National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation
    Home Alone
    When Harry Met Sally

    Some of her faves that I don't like:

    Sleepless in Seattle
    Dumb & Dumber
    Scent of a Woman
    Tom & Huck
    Superman
    Nine Months

    Some of my faves that she doesn't like very much:

    Monty Python (any of them)
    MASH
    Alien
    The Court Jester
    The 39 Steps
    Duck Soup
    Zelig
    Notorious
    2001

    But as I say, mostly our tastes overlap a lot.
     
  17. Brian Kissinger

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    Well, my marriage is (was) proof that a mutual love of movies doesn't mean shit. She even preferred OAR. We used to be able to watch anything together, but eventually my appreciation of things like Fincher or anything remotely realistic or dark was undeniable proof of my being an evil, vile person. To add insult to injury, she left her copies of Dirty Dancing and You've got F****** Mail.



    Ooops. Am I bumming out the thread?
     
  19. Brook K

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    To Shelley's credit, she did help me move furniture and moved a %#%#load of toys today as I'm in the process of moving my HT to a different room to accomodate my new speakers. She also approved the purchase of the speakers and when I told her I might need a new receiver too, she said "Go ahead and buy one, Merry Christmas" [​IMG]
    Also she does really like Monty Python.
     
  20. Lew Crippen

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    My wife loves Monty Python
     

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