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Scott Burke

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When you know that your other is becoming stressed and quite tired from weekly activities, what do you do to lift thier spirits and mood? I really want to do something nice for her however, I am a college student who makes only about 60 bucks per week and 40 of that is spent getting to and from school, and parking. I was wondering if any of you folks, men or women out there in cyberspace have tried and true methods for making life a little easier on your other. The more ideas the merrier. Thanks everybody!!
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Holadem

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If you are willing to take advice froma single guy...
Give her a scented bath and a massage... candle lights if you wish, perhaps cook dinner... try not to argue during that day/weekend, do everything she wants. Its her weenk end.
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Kevin Potts

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With due credit given to Holadem for a couple of ideas....
First off, go and rent a couple of her favorite movies. Either order out or cook her favorite dinner while she takes a nice relaxing bath, then pull out a blanket and a pillow and let her lay down on the couch with you why you watch the movies.
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Julie K

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I'm single, but I've never been shy about offering advice

I don't know how you divide up household jobs, but maybe you should consider doing a little more housework. Don't make it a one-shot, Saturday morning "Look honey! I cleaned the toilet! Aren't I wonderful!" type of thing. If she is becoming too stressed and tired from weekly activities, then a consistent amount of help might be just what's needed.
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I agree with Holadem, Ive done this for a few and they were floored and "very nice to me" for weeks after.
I was at their place when they got home and had really good take out(usually Italian) in the oven to stay warm. Kept their glass filled with wine.Had flowers laid out and fedals on the floor(which you have to pick up later) They were suprised to see me there, I took of their clothes ran a hot bath for them, bath them, dry them off, brush their hair, dry it. Massage by candlelight on the couch while the food heats up.Feed them dinner. Take them in the bedroom eat desert off of them and slam dunk her one.
Ive never had anyone tell me it was "too much" or "overboard" or whatever, women love to be spoiled. She'll be telling everyone how thoughtful and romantc you are for days and days.
Works like a charm.
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andrew markworthy

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I agree with Julie on this one - more housework from the male nearly always works wonders (and it doesn't cost anything!).
 

Bill Catherall

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Yeah, my wife says I look sexy doing the dishes.
Whatever!
...Feed them dinner. Take them in the bedroom eat desert off of them and slam dunk her one.
Depending on the woman...that last part might be going a bit far. Even if you're married to her. The problem is that instead of seeing it as being pampered and spoiled, they might see it as being seduced. If pampering always leads to sex then they won't enjoy the pampering so much if they aren't in the mood for sex. Surprise her and don't "slam dunk." Of course, guys always love to be seduced, so this doesn't apply if it's the guy being pampered.

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Ryan Wright

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They were suprised to see me there, I took of their clothes ran a hot bath for them, bath them, dry them off, brush their hair, dry it.
You keep saying "They". How many women can you bathe at one time, anyway? And how did you talk them into getting into a single bathtub together?

Scott: Take over some of her daily chores. Find something that she does almost every day, whether it's vaccumning, doing the dishes, whatever, and start doing it before she has a chance to. She needs some time to relax and unwind, and she will probably want that time to be without you. Women are funny that way, they need a few hours to themselves every once in awhile. But here's the catch: If they even think there might be something that they didn't get done that day, they won't be able to relax.
Take my wife, for example. She has to get the house cleaned and dishes and clothes washed and everything else done before she will take a break. I can't tell her, "Don't worry about it, honey. We can do it tomorrow." She has to do it right then and there. If I pitch in and help, it goes that much faster, and she can relax sooner.
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I usually volunteer to watch the kids for a few hours so she can go out and enjoy herself. This may not work as well for you.

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JonZ

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Bill,Slam Dunk is a term I heard on Married With Children.It stuck.And most of the time, it was the woman who initiated it.
Ryan, Ive tried this on a few women, and it always went over well. Different girls at different times but not together

Doing more house work doesnt work for me, becuase they expect me to do that already,Im a neat freak whos always doing some type fo housework.
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Bill Catherall

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And most of the time, it was the woman who initiated it.
That's cool. I only mentioned that because if you put it in your pampering routine then pampering could be seen as an ulterior motive. If you don't plan on it, but she starts it...more power to ya!

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Was thinking the same thing as Ryan about (them). heehee!! oh and Ryan, I'm still trying to call you at 000-000-0000 (another thread) but cannot seem to get through...are you not home or something?!

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