Taking a Hiatus (1 Viewer)

[DaveF]

My speakers and sub will all have to go into storage.

You’ve got a lot going on, and storage might be easiest, lowest stress option for you. But I wonder if selling off your gear would be better long run? Sounds like this new situation might last a few years. So get some cash now, save long-term storage costs, and save the heartache of finally pulling out of storage your beloved gear years later to potentially find dry-rot or water / humidity degradation.

And then when you’re back in the HT game, you get to go find fun new toys to power your system!

 

[Clinton McClure]

That thought has crossed my mind. For now, I’ve placed all my speakers and sub neatly in the corner of my office.

 

[TonyD]

Im in a slightly similar situation with my mom.
She is 80 later this year and as of yesterday is now living alone.
Her husband and companion of over 40 years passed away this weekend.

They moved into a housing facility a few years ago that will take care of all their health related needs including hospice care.
He was moved from their apartment a couple days ago into hospice and he passed there.

We have told her many times that if this happens she can come live at our home.

Trouble is she lives in Delaware and our home is in SW Florida.
Plus everything they had money wise was invested in this place where she lives.
So she can stay there until the end of her life and everything is taken care of even if she can no longer pay the rental fees.

Not sure what we are going to do right now.

Good luck Clinton I’m afraid this is going to be a difficult time.

 

[bujaki]

I've been there, done that. I had to bring my mother--in her eighties and suffering from mild dementia--from Puerto Rico. My wife made accommodations in our home so she could live comfortably with us and our son. Small house in the Dallas area, but not a problem. However, after one "spell" which necessitated a brief spell in hospital, social services refused to release her into our care, stating that she needed 24-hour care in a nursing home (meds, meals, health monitoring, etc.): stuff that we couldn't provide her.
We were given 3 days to find an appropriate place for her. Fortunately we did find an excellent place within 5-minutes driving from our home. We could visit her several times a week along with two of her grandchildren. She never lost track of her history. She knew who she was and who we were. She only lost her short-term memory. She was well taken care of and was loved by staff and nursing personnel to the end of her days. She was never in pain. She decided it was time to go and so she did, quietly and peacefully.
I was with her when she drew her last breath, as she was with me when I drew my first.
Cherish your parents while you can. Constantly remind yourself that dementia is an illness, and that they do not know--nor are they responsible for--what they are doing.
Patience and love will get you through this difficult time.

 

[EricSchulz]

I’m sending you positive vibes and energy. I was my dad’s primary caregiver for four years, the last one being incredibly difficult. He was 87 when mom passed away and lived to 91. Dad was independent and strong willed but we made it work. Towards the end a lot was put on my shoulders and I put him first, but please remember to take care of yourself too. As difficult as life became, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. Please make sure you occasionally step away from it…it will definitely help your mental health.

 

[Kevin Hewell]

I've been there, done that. I had to bring my mother--in her eighties and suffering from mild dementia--from Puerto Rico. My wife made accommodations in our home so she could live comfortably with us and our son. Small house in the Dallas area, but not a problem. However, after one "spell" which necessitated a brief spell in hospital, social services refused to release her into our care, stating that she needed 24-hour care in a nursing home (meds, meals, health monitoring, etc.): stuff that we couldn't provide her.
We were given 3 days to find an appropriate place for her. Fortunately we did find an excellent place within 5-minutes driving from our home. We could visit her several times a week along with two of her grandchildren. She never lost track of her history. She knew who she was and who we were. She only lost her short-term memory. She was well taken care of and was loved by staff and nursing personnel to the end of her days. She was never in pain. She decided it was time to go and so she did, quietly and peacefully.
I was with her when she drew her last breath, as she was with me when I drew my first.
Cherish your parents while you can. Constantly remind yourself that dementia is an illness, and that they do not know--nor are they responsible for--what they are doing.
Patience and love will get you through this difficult time.

I'm glad you had the means to provide that for her.

 

[Clinton McClure]

Im in a slightly similar situation with my mom.
She is 80 later this year and as of yesterday is now living alone.
Her husband and companion of over 40 years passed away this weekend.

They moved into a housing facility a few years ago that will take care of all their health related needs including hospice care.
He was moved from their apartment a couple days ago into hospice and he passed there.

We have told her many times that if this happens she can come live at our home.

Trouble is she lives in Delaware and our home is in SW Florida.
Plus everything they had money wise was invested in this place where she lives.
So she can stay there until the end of her life and everything is taken care of even if she can no longer pay the rental fees.

Not sure what we are going to do right now.

Good luck Clinton I’m afraid this is going to be a difficult time.

Thanks Tony. I wish you luck too.

We’ve moved most of what they are bringing. I think we only have a couple of trips left, but we had to take a break yesterday and today for rain / snow. We needed the rest so it was a welcome break. After that, they’ll go back to their old house every day or so over the next few weeks to clean it out and get ready to have a huge moving sale. Their place is only a 15 minute drive from us so it’s pretty easy on them.

So far, everyone is getting along. We have 4 dogs: Izzy - The Destroyer of Worlds™ who is 11 weeks old today, Chloe (5 year old Cavachon), Chance (4 year old Havanese), and Lilo (14 year old Yorkie who recently went blind). They brought their two 9 year old Yorkies, Sally and Trixie (who is blind and insulin dependent diabetic).

I’m really glad wifey and I were both able to take off this week to help with their transition.

Thank you again to everyone for the outpouring of support.