I'm using the NHT SA-3 (250 watts) with my Hsu TN1220... I have the Hsu Bass Optimizer to flatten out the frequency response down to 20 Hz. I am very pleased with the setup.
One of my subs has a bridged Adcom 555. 600 watts for $275 from a local want ad. Used home amps work great for subs.
The BFD is a good idea... probably my next HT purchase. I don't believe it has phase adjustment, though. I've been contemplating building phase adjustment into my next DIY active crossover.
I'd like to build a component that has phase, dampening, and crossover adjustment for the subs. And I don't want to sum the bass signal but keep them left and right. Now, I don't know how to design to I'd probably have to have someone design it for me.