Evan S
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Ok, where do I start?
About 7 months ago, I ended a relationship with someone who was very dear to me. A woman whom I had dated for 9 months and lived with in platonic friendship for 3 years before that. Not going to get into huge details, but we had a very complex and difficult courtship. There were elements outside our union that affected the two of us greatly and drove a wedge in between us...more so for me than for her, but needless to say, to some degree for the both of us. This was the only girl I have ever dated seriously that I didn't treat like a queen. I didn't do anything hurtful, but I wasn't as attentive as I could have been to her and our situation.
We broke up in October. I recognized instantly that I had taken this person for granted and realized my mistake. I had let outside influences affect me too much in our relationship and needed to make amends. After a couple of months of discussions, I pretty much broke down in front of her and asked for her to return to me. Problem was she had met a new man during this time and refused to reconcile with me...she wanted to continue this new relationship and felt jaded about our time together.
After 5 months of searching, I finally went on a date three weeks ago with a great woman who I instantly connected with. Instant chemistry and common interests and physical attraction. This woman restored my faith in dating after a long cold spell. Funny thing happened on Monday however, as her ex-boyfriend of 6 months (who she broke up with two weeks before meeting me) broke down in front of her, begging for forgiveness for HIS shortcomings in their relationship. After three days of deliberation, she's going back together with him and ending it with me...right when I thought this might be going somewhere.
Anyone else just loathe the dating scene? Funny how the tables are turned here. I took my lumps in the earlier scenerio (and deservedly so) and now I'm taking them again. Man, this can really get a guy down...thank god all this beautiful sunny weather in the northeast is keeping my spirits up! (sarcasm).
About 7 months ago, I ended a relationship with someone who was very dear to me. A woman whom I had dated for 9 months and lived with in platonic friendship for 3 years before that. Not going to get into huge details, but we had a very complex and difficult courtship. There were elements outside our union that affected the two of us greatly and drove a wedge in between us...more so for me than for her, but needless to say, to some degree for the both of us. This was the only girl I have ever dated seriously that I didn't treat like a queen. I didn't do anything hurtful, but I wasn't as attentive as I could have been to her and our situation.
We broke up in October. I recognized instantly that I had taken this person for granted and realized my mistake. I had let outside influences affect me too much in our relationship and needed to make amends. After a couple of months of discussions, I pretty much broke down in front of her and asked for her to return to me. Problem was she had met a new man during this time and refused to reconcile with me...she wanted to continue this new relationship and felt jaded about our time together.
After 5 months of searching, I finally went on a date three weeks ago with a great woman who I instantly connected with. Instant chemistry and common interests and physical attraction. This woman restored my faith in dating after a long cold spell. Funny thing happened on Monday however, as her ex-boyfriend of 6 months (who she broke up with two weeks before meeting me) broke down in front of her, begging for forgiveness for HIS shortcomings in their relationship. After three days of deliberation, she's going back together with him and ending it with me...right when I thought this might be going somewhere.
Anyone else just loathe the dating scene? Funny how the tables are turned here. I took my lumps in the earlier scenerio (and deservedly so) and now I'm taking them again. Man, this can really get a guy down...thank god all this beautiful sunny weather in the northeast is keeping my spirits up! (sarcasm).