Should I let my mom cook for me when she offers to? (1 Viewer)

[StephenA]

I seem to upset her when she offers to and I say no. She seems offended and thinks I don't like her cooking. I tell her I'm old enough to cook for myself. She also has enough to do when she has to cook for my sister and her brother, so why should I add to the hassle. I always feel bad telling her no, but don't want for her to have to bother with making me dinner.

 

[Leila Dougan]

It really depends on your mom, really. I have found that a lot of parents like to feel needed. Some more than others, but it makes them feel good when they do something for other people, especially their kids. I don't think there is anything wrong accepting her offer just as long as you're not coming across as unappreciative. Maybe tell her that if she makes you dinner you'll clean the kitchen and do the dishes? Or offer to cook another night of the week for the whole family. It should make her feel needed, yet gives her a break from her duties as well.

 

[KyleS]

I have found that a lot of parents like to feel needed. Some more than others

I belive that this is a huge reason that a lot parents can seem overwhelming once you leave the house. Its all they have known for the past 18+ years, talk about a hard habit to break. If it makes your mom feel good, and its not ALL the time, then why not enjoy it. (Hopefully she is a good cook and you do enjoy it )
KyleS

 

[Justin Lane]

My 84 year old grandmother is the same way. She expects that if she invites you over for dinner, then you will show. She does not realize that her kids, and grandkids sometimes have other plans. I try to make it whenever possible, but sometimes it is just not in the cards.

The best thing to tell your mom is that you like her cooking, but sometimes you have other things going on in your life. Missing dinner, does not show any hidden dislikes for her cooking.

J

 

[Rain]

Take it while you can get it. She obviously enjoys it, so what the hell.
Nobody cooks for me. Well, the people at McDonald's do. :frowning:

 

[Mark Larson]

Take it while you can get it.

I second that. You don't know what you're missing until you've been away from your parents for so long you don't even remember what mother's cooking tastes like, feels like...

 

[Ted Lee]

wow...a lot of threads have recently popped up reminding me how much i miss my parents.

absolutely, if she offers, take her up on it. just let her know how much you appreciate it.

you're her child and i'm sure she enjoys being able to cook for you.

you'll miss it when she's not able to anymore...i promise you that.

 

[Scooter]

Some stuff you will never be able to have again. I miss my mom's chicken and dumplings..butterscotch cookies..shredded pork BBQ... and my grandma's homemade veggie beef soup from scratch!!!!!

She would keep it on the stove and I would eat it days at a time. Was sooo perfect after ice skating all night in the Upstate New York winter.

 

[KeithH]

Should I let my mom cook for me when she offers to?

Absolutely! I couldn't imagine turning down my mom's cooking. That's some good eatin'!

 

[Frank Anderson]

Dude, you're almost 23!

 

[Gui A]

Take the food. My mom is also the same... Ever since she came back from vacation a year ago, in which I had to survive on my own cooking "skills" for two weeks, she has felt the need to bring food up to my room. I've told her I don't really want to eat breakfast in bed, but she just keeps bringing it every weekday morning. I didn't put up much of a fight though. The way I see it, I'm only going to live here a few more months, so I might as well enjoy the perks before I go back to eating canned soup and waffles.

Also, she's making food for the entire family. It's not hard to cook a bit more.

 

[Jeff Ulmer]

Yes, absolutely, just make sure she knows you appreciate it when she does. As others have said, you will miss it when it is gone.

 

[Philip_G]

hrm, thinking back I think I did more cooking than my mom did once I got to be about 12. Oh well.

 

[Shawn C]

If it makes your mom happy to cook for you, let her do it. You get a meal and she gets some happiness out of the deal.

 

[Graeme Clark]

Nobody cooks for me. Well, the people at McDonald's do.

If you want to call that cooking.

I'd never turn down my mom's cooking. Even the simplest thing seems like a gourmet meal next to the slop I make.

 

[Philip Hamm]

Not only should you take the food, you should bring over Rubbermaid and Tupperware for the leftovers so you can enjoy it when you're at home.

You will miss this bigtime when it is no longer available. Do not take this gift for granted.

 

[Patrick Sun]

Also, please be appreciative of any meals your mother does serve you. Let her know.

 

[David Singleton]

Graciously accept the offer, then offer to help. Not only do you get to spend time with your mother while helping, you will be learning how to cook so you will not have canned soup and waffles for every meal.
I'm 28, and have really enjoyed cooking over the past year, year and a half. It has become somewhat of a hobby for me. However, I will still call her, or my grandmother, if I want clarification on some recipe.
Like any hobby, it can become a sickness . I even upgraded my DirecTV package just to get the Food Network and be able to watch Emeril. Just like any hobby I find, I do invest a lot of money into it, so be careful- you thought your home theater hobby was expensive.
David

 

[Andy_Bu]

Being of Italian stock, it is in bred in my mom and my grandma to try and cook for me when ever possible.

I have my own family now, and my mother (who had 3 sons), is very happy that I am continuing to use some of hers and her mothers recipes for my family when I cook. It is like a part of her is being passed down.

Still, every time my family visits, she always finds some excuse to cook for us.

As nearly everyone on this thread has said, accept it happily, be VERY appreciative and help out when ever you can. Sometimes simply showing interest in what she is cooking is the best reward for her.

I know I will miss it when some day my mom is not around so take advantage of it now and enjoy!

AB

 

[StephenA]

Ok, I guess I'll let her cook for me sometimes. I always do the dishes and do cook for other family members too. My mom knows I like her cooking, and I never complain when it's bad either. It just makes her feel bad that I usually won't let her cook for me. I just don't want her to have to worry about what I want along with everyone else.