Sad adoption story... (1 Viewer)

[SteveGon]

My cousin and his wife have been trying to have a baby for over ten years with no success. After spending thousands and thousands of dollars on several attempts at in vitro-fertilization with no luck, they decided to go the adoption route. The baby they were supposed to adopt was born last week. At the last minute, the parents decided to keep the child and did not inform the adoption agency until yesterday. As far as I know, neither parent has a job and they are both living with their parents. This REALLY stinks. My cousin and his wife were very much looking forward to adopting this baby. The adoption agency has already been paid its multi-thousand dollar fee, the crib purchased, a baby shower held. What a shame.

Now I realize it must be very difficult to give your child up for adoption, but does the young mother realize the damage she's done to my cousin and his wife (who must be heart-broken)? And people wonder why I'm so friggin' cynical...

 

[PatrickM]

Steve,

Sorry to hear about your cousin and his wife but this isn't that uncommon unfortunately. My sister-in-laws sister actually had the baby for a couple of days before the mother changed her mind. How's that for heartbreaking?

But, in the other case I know of the mother was so young she basically just wanted to go ride her bike after giving birth rather than take care of the child so the mother of birth mother definitely pushed her daughter into making the right decision initially.

Hope things work out,

Patrick

 

[SteveGon]

Yeah, I realize it isn't that uncommon but I guess it hits hardest when it hits close to home. A sad situation all around and something to think about if you're planning to adopt...

 

[Joseph DeMartino]

but does the young mother realize the damage she's done to my cousin and his wife

Not to mention the long-term damage the kid will probably suffer. Not exactly the ideal start in life.

Regards,

Joe

 

[Holadem]

Not to mention the long-term damage the kid will probably suffer. Not exactly the ideal start in life.

Why is this? While I sympathise with Steve, no one said or infered that the child was not in good care with his/her biological parents.

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Holadem

 

[Leila Dougan]

Holadem, I think Joseph was making an inference based on this:

As far as I know, neither parent has a job and they are both living with their parents.

But you're right, just because they are living with their parents does not mean the child won't be cared for.