Ok, we've all done it (including myself), but lately I've been experiencing this more and more and I am about to strangle someone. Have you ever had a problem that was either stressing you out or making you angry or sad? Now why is it, that when you are like this, EVERYONE has to make things worse by agitating the situation!!! Example: For the past 3 months, I have had MAJOR issues with my car. I've been in and out of the dealer and a tire shop about 10 times. The issue wasn't resolving and I've spent close to $4,500 in fixing it. Now! Everyone knows this (i.e. all of the hell I've been through), but when I told my parents about the latest issue (and $1,000 bill), the first thing my mom starts with is: "What? Did you give them hell? Did you do this? Did you do that????" ARGH!!! I was ready to EXPLODE on her! Does she not realize that I am already stressed to the max and I've already bitched and griped and fought with the dealer? What do her comments do for me but stress me out even more? I had the car at the dealership and they gave me a loaner car. It wasn't the greatest, but I was glad I didn't have to take yet another vacation day off to have my car fixed...When I got to work, a co-worker saw the car and started saying "Oh my god! This sucks! I'd be PISSED! You should tell the dealer that you want a better car! I can't believe you actually took this car!..." etc. etc. etc. ACK! At this point, I had MORE concerns on my mind than the freakin rental car! I just wanted my car fixed, but this person had to stress me out even more with piddly crap! WHY???? Again, I realize why people do this (yes, I've done it myself), but I don't think people realize what they are actually doing. Another example: A co-worker was having a stressful week and was going on vacation...with the recent terrorist attempt, everyone was coming up to her and saying "Oh man! You'd better get to the airport early!" or "Man, that sucks that you can't bring (this and that) on the plane...", etc. etc. etc. I mean, this woman is stressed enough about flying, but everyone feels the need to make things worse for her by stressing her out even more so with their "concern". Later on, I went to her and said "Don't worry about the flight. The waiting will probably suck, but once you get to Florida, you can relax and all of that crap will be behind you." So, I guess the point of the thread is, when someone is stressing, please try to give them positive vibes....they've already thought of everything that you're about to say to them, so there's no need to rehash it and stress them out even more.