Man Did I Ever "f" Up (1 Viewer)

[Louis Stettiner]

I have been dating this girl now for 3 months. It has been some of the best three months that I can remember in recent time. We do everything together play pool,watch the Games on Sundays, watch movies and just have fun just being in each others company.

Well Wednesday night I met up with her and some of her co workers for a couple drinks.Well a couple turned into a few, a few turned into more and I was F'd UP to say the least. we go back to her house and for some reason I just got all weird. I freaked her out she said that I was a completely different person.


Thursday we got together(thank GOD) to talk which we did about getting together sat night. I kept telling her that i am not that type of person that my main thing in life is to make people laugh and that I love the fact that i can make people laugh. I said i was sorry 100 times but she said I hurt her to much.In the HEART not in a physical way
I forgot to call her Friday and all hell broke loose when I called her today. She says she if I was any boyfriend that I would have done anything to make sure that she was OK. she is not sure if she ever wants to see me again. But she is willing to give me a chance to prove to her just how much she does mean to me. and she means alot to me.


What should I do. She says this is not something that is going to be fixed over night its going to take time and she says that even then she might not have the same feelings for me.

Sorry for the long post But She is just the best thing in my life right now. man I wish she read this forum.


I told her i would call her sat So we can watch the game I will be calling. man I just have to get her back

 

[Kelley_B]

what exactly did you do?

 

[Travis Olson]

what exactly did you do?

He probably doesn't remember.

 

[teapot2001]

His girlfriend remembers though, and I'm sure she told him.

I would think that an explanation that you were drunk would be a valid reason for the way you acted that night.

~T

 

[Philip_G]

I would think that an explanation that you were drunk would be a valid reason for the way you acted that night.

I would too. She sounds a little erm, I can't think of a polite way to say it, but high maintenance. Like she's just making a big deal out of (what sounds to me based on the info presented) nothing, just to drag you around. Maybe my take on it is completely wrong though.
Were it me, and she threatened to not see you again because of one night and a missed phonecall I would take a hike, but that's me.
Ok, after reading what happend I would be out of there. She brought it up, it looks like a trap. But that's me and doesn't help you much does it? :frowning:
try to talk to her and see what else is going on, there has to be more to the story than she's leading on to.

 

[Louis Stettiner]

We were Joking around and she brought up.......What do you think about 2 woman going at it. She asked... would you rather watch or join In? Being in a new relation ship I pleaded the fifth. She Started saying all this stuff that that was grounds for Break up. I heard those 2 words BREAK UP. Being the state that I was in i just lost it. I got up Just Walk out of the room. I came Back and just started saying why she wanted to break up with me. But I was not Violent I was Just over taken with Rejection and Started..............Well crying and just acting like a completely Different person. She said It was Like i wasn't even there. that some else besides me was in the room. Speaking in a weird Voice A stone look on my face and just a weird Vibe.


I was overtaken by the BOOZE. I am a beer drinker by trade. But I took a liking to Gin and Tonics a week before when we took a trip to CT and hit the casinos. I know my limit when it comes to beer but I had no idea How many of these things would get me going. I know that If I have 6 beers Im Fine. So i thought that would be the same..NOT TRUE. I had way to many GNT that night. And ruined the best thing I have had.


I know this doesnt sound like much but it has made a big dent with her.


Please say a prayer for me so i can get her Back.


I will be posting My Progress here daily. Oh I have decided to never have Gin and tonics ever again

 

[Louis Stettiner]

I tried to tell her that that I was drunk and I am not that type of person. She says that How can i be sure that it will never happen again. I told her well If I drink alot of Gin and tonics again it might happen. But That is the thing my actions were brought on by a third party BOOZE. If i don't have that then I wont act like that. SHe says that a wall has been put up and that she might have a hard time seeing me in the same light ever again. I wish i could have her Listen to my Friends so they can tell her that i am not like that. And I am Just a really Funny Guy that like to have fun and hurting people is not what i was put on this land to do.

 

[Louis Stettiner]

OK Its 2am, I need sleep I need to be able to wake up and call her tomorrow. I HOPE SHE UNDERSTANDS HOW MUCH SHE MEANS TO ME. But this is not about me it about her.

 

[teapot2001]

I don't know how you will resolve this if she doesn't understand that you were simply drunk. And how could she be hurt when you were upset over thinking that she wanted to break up with you, while you were drunk? That proves how much you care about her and the relationship.

~T

 

[Louis Stettiner]

Thanks. That is just the Thing I needed to hear. Can you call her and tell her that. her # IS........Just Kidding.


Thanks again for the Support.


Funny her Nickname is "T" also.

 

[Mark Romero]

Damn, alcohol is great.

 

[Luis S]

Umm,am I the only one that thinks Louis has got a MAJOR psycho bitch on his hands? No offence man,but thats just not normal behavior. She's got some SERIOUS issues.I know you feel head over heels about her but maybe you need to step back and think about it some.For only three months I think you may be in to deep.A relationship with someone like that will only bring you heartache in the long run.Probably not what you want to hear but you sound like a good guy,Im sure you can do better.You dont need to deal with crap like that.Shes too insecure/demanding/unstable/ so think about your peace of mind then decide.Good luck.

Later

Luis S

 

[Philip_G]

luis- no. but self restraint gets the better of me (hey, there's a first time for everything)

 

[Louis Stettiner]

She Has Been married before and was SCREWED OVER By her "X". She is far from a PSYCO infact she is the most stable woman I have ever dated. Good Job. Nice house awesome Family. This is something i need. I have done the dating thing long enough. I have had my share of one night stands with more then one Woman(at a time). (Thank God she doesnt read this forum) I thought I found the one I could be with for a while maybe longer. I have to see things that She was the one that was Hurt and not me . I have to respect that fact.

 

[JamieD]

I would think that an explanation that you were drunk would be a valid reason for the way you acted that night.

Reason, yes. Excuse, no. While I do think she's a bit overboard, I don't know if this is going to be fixable, and I sure as hell don't think being drunk excuses what you did in the slightest. Personally, I hold people VERY responsible for what they do when intoxicated, because YOU are the one who's doing it! If you don't like that, don't get drunk!

 

[Josh Lowe]

she sounds like a psycho, lose her.

 

[Frank Anderson]

I forgot to call her Friday and all hell broke loose when I called her today. She says she if I was any boyfriend that I would have done anything to make sure that she was OK. she is not sure if she ever wants to see me again.

I thought you talked on Thursday about your behavior (drunkenness) on Wednesday night. You don't talk one day and it's back to the threats. Is this one of those relationship where if you don't physically meet once a day you have to call every evening not because you missed each other but to answer: What did you do, where have you been, who have you been with etc?

PS I agree with JamieD on behavior while drunk

 

[Andrew W]

The correct answer is:

If one of them was you, I'd join in, otherwise I'd just watch.

 

[Louis Stettiner]

I hate the whole PSYCHO Cop out when It comes to woman. Oh she is just a PYSCHO Lose her. I have meet woman and dated woman who are Certfiable she is not. OH did I mention that she was also a bit Buzzed that night as well. granted not as much as I was.


Jaimie Good Point. Reason and not Excuse.


"Honey the REASON I acted like that the other night was that I was drunk"

NOT

"Honey I was just drunk"

 

[Louis Stettiner]

Frank. It is far from that type some days we go days without talking to each other BUT I PROMISED to call her on friday. Given the state that she was in and hindsight is always 20/20 I should have called to to see how she was doing. She told me last night that she is very Hurt over this whole thing. If I was someone else she just would have walked away. but she is giving me another chance. She was also BALLING her eyes out over this which also tells me something.



No short leash involved here guys. to an extent. I cant act like my Usual funny wise Cracking self when I go out with her family or tell Dirty Jokes to her boss. you know things like that. But telling me to do this or do that. Nope nothing like that here.