Leaving the BIG city

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  1. Holadem

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    I am moving out of NYC to Hartford, CT. It is not far, at most 2 hours from here. Still, I really wish I could stay in NYC: I have lived in big cities all my life, both in West Africa and in the US. Hartford will be my smallest, and needless to say, I am not happy at all. I guess I am a city person.
    Of course the positive side is cheap rent, more open space etc... the funny thing is that I will miss the City for the very reason other people don't like it: THE CROWD. I love being at an intersection with HUNDREDS of people, all hurrying to their businesses. I love the crowded subway stations, teenagers yelling in the street at night, the little corner stores on every block, often open 24h, the availability of everything, the sheer number of movie theaters, the little shops downtown where you can find everything from antiques to collectible records - not that I buy either of them [​IMG]. Anyway, you get my drift. Tough I haven't taken advantage of even 1% of what this city offers, I am going to miss it.
    Example: I was in Hartford last summer and I came back to NYC every week end. When I got off the bus at 42nd St & 8th Ave, I would walk 1 block to catch the subway on 7th ave. During that 5 min walk, I would see more women than during a whole week in CT! WTF?!! Granted, this is Times Square but still...
    Of well... at least I am not moving accros the country, it is only 1h 40min away. I will be back pretty much every other week end anyway to visit my daughter.
    So who has left a big city and how do you feel about it?
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  2. Pamela

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    I did just the opposite. I traded in small town life for the big city. Best thing I ever did. Of course, I couldn't imagine having to go back. It would near about kill me. But I suppose if I had to, I could. Humans have amazing capacity to be adaptable
     
  3. Evan S

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    Why don't you just make my life a little more depressing don't you?[​IMG]
    I missed my window on moving out when I was 25 and 5 of my friends moved to San Diego. Family considerations have kept me here (still do).
    Still, I feel your pain. Hartford is actually a cool little place if you have a family...it's quiet, cost of living is affordable, there's more to do than you think (but you have to look for it) and you are close to some pretty cool areas (Boston, NYC).
    If you are young, single and looking for nightlife, you are shit out of luck I'm afraid. Music scene isn't that bad here though and we do have some damn good casinos if you like to gamble.
    Women? What are those? That's not one of Hartford's strengths either. Sorry to rain on your parade, but actually things weren't that bad downtown when we had the Whalers. You can't imagine how a city becomes a shadow of itself if it loses it's only major league sports franchise.
    OK, I'm thouroughly depressed again. I gotta get me a beer!
     
  4. Henry Gale

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  5. Holadem

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  6. Hugh M

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    thats not a small town dude! I realize you didn't necessarily say that but....

    small is when there is maybe one paved road, no major grocery stores, no stoplights, and no ATMs, no police, only county sheriffs, and three bars within a 30 minute drive.

    I grew up in Northern NJ, which is basically one big city. Then I moved to a mountain town in CO for 4 years and it was great! I'm not sure there is any advantage in being in between the two (big and small) as you get screwed out of any advantages of either one.

    its definitely an experience that everyone should have. And so is big-city life as well.

    When I was in NJ I never would drive 45 miles to a grocery store in NYC. But in CO that is how far I drove to go to anything bigger than a convenience store. This was a pain, but it was a pretty drive.

    Just imagine 75mph speed limit on the way to work..wooohooo
     
  7. Jay H

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    I could never live in Manhattan, ecckkkk, I need space and places to spread my wings and stuff. Central park just doesn't cut it, however I might be able to survive in the outer boroughs of NYC though, perhaps, not that I'd want to but I could...

    Where I live now is nice but urban sprawl is a big problem. I'm only about 40 minutes NW of Manhatten but you'd be surprised at the amount of state parks and forrests. I'm 2 miles from a state forrest and I am only like 1.5 hours from the Catskills and 4 hours from the ADKs as well as about 1.5 hours from the Delaware Water Gap and theres tons of places around here.

    I don't recall the last time I went to Manhatten, but usually it has been to pick up some Chinese groceries that you can't really find locally or at least cheaply, it is typically cheaper in NYC and certainly better quality but of course the friggin tolls and parking makes paying more around here more than worth it. So typically, it's been only around Chinese New Year and the like that I ever venture into NYC.

    ..and I get to bike to work and grocery stores and there are 4 major grocery stores within 10 miles of me, all accessible by bike.

    Jay
     
  8. Michael Reuben

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    Well, Jay, I walk to work, and my grocery store is 10 blocks away. Plus my groceries get delivered. [​IMG]
    M.
     
  9. Steven K

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    Sorry to hear that Holadem. Hartford isn't exactly the most happening place; in fact, I dread driving through it when I go to NYC.

    I have done both: moved from Chicago to Tennessee, then from Tennessee to Boston.

    Of course, Hartford is a fairly cheap place to live so it does have that going for it. Plus, its not that far from both New York City and Boston.

    Alot of people complain about the city life because of the crowds, noise, etc... However I'm with you. I like being in crowded places. I love the crowded subway stations and the busy intersections, the small stores on every corner, the public transportation... dont think I could (or will) ever leave the big city life.
     
  10. Sean Conklin

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    In my small town we used to have 2 stoplights.
    But after a council meeting it was decided that we only need the one, so a 4 way stop sign was put up at the intersection in question[​IMG]
     
  11. Neil Joseph

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    I know how you feel. I always feel the need to be close to a big city. Toronto is the smallest city I have lived in so far and the city alone is 2.4 million with a greater pop of about 4-5 million. NYC is one of a kind. I saw people getting their hair cut at 2:00am in lower Manhatten.
     
  12. Butch C

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    Dude, the first time you have to go to the Department of Motor Vehicles or the Post Office in Hartford you will be so glad that you got out of this Fuckin city that I love to death.

    I will miss it but theres no way a few years down the line that im gonna raise my family here. Say hello to Westchester or rockland.

    BTW...living in Conn. wont be that bad...it could be worse...LONG ISLAND!
     
  13. Janna S

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    I lived in LA for three years - in the ultra high-rent part of town, very nice - and moved from there to Kodiak, Alaska (where there were no stoplights). It was like going from hell to heaven. I am in Anchorage now, and the only way I could ever live in a big city again would be if I were cremated and my ashes were shipped to a city by mistake . . . .
     
  14. Evan S

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    Holadem, there is a small "arts" cinema in Hartford (Cinema City) that plays the "smaller" "artsy" films. You won't have to go to NYC or Boston to catch them. Just to let you know.

    Actually, Hartford's really not that bad. It's got some cool stuff if you know where to look. Problem is the babes. There just not here. Sorry.
     
  15. Ralph Summa

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    Holadem,

    The glass is half full! I was born and raised in the sticks about 25 miles west of Hartford. I spent 7 years in Boston and moved back to CT about a year ago. I moved back mostly because of family, but I had enough of big city crap anyway. What a freaking treat to drive through the city every morning to get to work and never go below 55 mph. I sold my 1800 sq ft home 45 minutes from Boston and bought a 2300 sq contemporary home 10 minutes from Hartford. Net +$40K.

    You're right, you won't see as many babes in Hartford as NYC, but you won't see as much competition either! If you really want to have a good time in Hartford, you'll find it!

    Now when I go back to Boston, I find that I appreciate it more.

    Good Luck!
     
  16. Mark Kalzer

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    Where I live, I've got the best of both worlds! At home, when I look outside my window, it's basically a very small village, with spread out houses, and a downtown area of just a small restaurant, a convenience store, and a bank without a 24 hour ATM.
    BUT, with just a 15 minute drive, I can hit Pickering Ontario with big grocery stores, malls, movie theatres, DVD stores [​IMG] , etc. Even better, just 15 minutes of driving after that, I can reach a Toronto Subway Station and go INTO DA BIG CITY!
    In fact, if you just drive a couple hundred feet to the west of my house, you reach a point where the CN Tower is visible off in the distance! It's a great diverse setting. In just a short time, I can go from middle of no-where smalltown, to the big sprawling city! I love it!
     

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