Max Leung
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Been there. Done that. Will never do it again.
Let the girl find her way. If you still want to keep contact with her, you will need to overcome the infatuation. The easiest way to do that is to break off contact for a while. Don't call her. Don't try to seek her out. Don't try to find her in the hallway or cafeteria or in breaks between classes (assuming you are in school). Go cold turkey.
Find yourself a hobby, discover where your passions (besides women) lay, and pursue them. First and foremost you must regain the self-esteem that you lost while in the presence of this women. Needy women are like emotional vampires...they will suck the life out of you, and you will feel like shit. This is not normal! Happy relationships are always the exact opposite. A hobby will help your recovery, and people will notice. Hell, dating other women would work too, when you realize how refreshing it is to date normal, happy women.
In addition to going cold turkey, you may elect to utter the ultimatum. Tell her that, although you enjoyed your times with her, her life needs to get back on track before you'd get back together with her again. Although I realize in your case this may not be applicable since she already has a boyfriend. Still, it is an option to consider...you'd be surprised how quickly women call back when they realize they may lose someone as cool as you. If they don't call back, then it was never meant to be (and I hope for your sake she won't...her issues can't be solved with a simple ultimatum).
Let the girl find her way. If you still want to keep contact with her, you will need to overcome the infatuation. The easiest way to do that is to break off contact for a while. Don't call her. Don't try to seek her out. Don't try to find her in the hallway or cafeteria or in breaks between classes (assuming you are in school). Go cold turkey.
Find yourself a hobby, discover where your passions (besides women) lay, and pursue them. First and foremost you must regain the self-esteem that you lost while in the presence of this women. Needy women are like emotional vampires...they will suck the life out of you, and you will feel like shit. This is not normal! Happy relationships are always the exact opposite. A hobby will help your recovery, and people will notice. Hell, dating other women would work too, when you realize how refreshing it is to date normal, happy women.
In addition to going cold turkey, you may elect to utter the ultimatum. Tell her that, although you enjoyed your times with her, her life needs to get back on track before you'd get back together with her again. Although I realize in your case this may not be applicable since she already has a boyfriend. Still, it is an option to consider...you'd be surprised how quickly women call back when they realize they may lose someone as cool as you. If they don't call back, then it was never meant to be (and I hope for your sake she won't...her issues can't be solved with a simple ultimatum).