Holadem
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Not if it's never the same chocolate
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Holadem - OK OK, I will stop.
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Holadem - OK OK, I will stop.
For starters, 21 and 23 and never having been with anyone else is too young to decide that you're 'soulmates.' Get that ridiculous concept out of your head before you dive into a commitment and god forbid kids with some delusional Romanticized notion about life.This, though stated condescendingly as fact, is just Mark Zimmer's opinion, and one that I strongly disagree with. The idea that you "need to be with someone else" sexually in order to be able to regognize who your soulmate is insulting at best. (Personally I find the concept repulsive)
The idea that you "need to be with someone else" sexually in order to be able to regognize who your soulmate is insulting at best.I don't think Mark was referring to sex. Assuming that the first person you have a relationship with is your soulmate, especially at that young an age, and with the obviously differing opinions on an important part of the relationship, is more than a bit naive. From the sounds of things, the soulmate part is more wishful thinking than reality.
It is important to remember that people change over time. What seems perfect at 20 does not necessarily ring true at 30 or 40. You may find it condescending when someone older tells you that you don't know what you're talking about when you're younger, but that view is based on life experience, and being able to analyse one's own thought processes as a young person, and seeing that there were many areas that you were completely wrong about. I wouldn't discount someone's opinion just because it doesn't meet your view of things, they may know what they are talking about.