Derek Miner
Screenwriter
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- Feb 22, 1999
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Just as soon as you think they've gone away, someone like me comes back in and puts another one up. Yes, it's another dating/relationship thread. Seriously, though, I enjoy reading the responses from the guys and gals that chime in to offer advice to the more socially challenged members (such as myself).
Last time I posted, I was agonizing over chatting up someone I didn't really know. I came out of that one a better person, though she was already taken.
But now, I've run into someone that I had met previously, and in Kevin Smith parlance, I felt we "shared a moment." Not on the level of defining the rest of my life, mind you, just a very intense feeling of compatibility and understanding stemming from long conversation.
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, let the infatuation begin.
You see, this is the point where I become a shattered man, trying my darndest to maintain composure. To be brutally honest, my experience at this stage is nearly none. I want to steer myself through the craziness of this first stage so that I can actually get to the point where I can be comfortable around this woman and figure out if something is happening. That's why I'm appealing to the wizened elders of the After Hours Lounge to impart soothing advice to help me keep my wits and make the best decisions until I can think straight.
Here's where I stand. At one point in my conversation with this lovely lady, she gave me her email address and said I should write her so she can send me a cool link. Because this was a gathering of some friends, I didn't feel comfortable trying the really forward "Hey, let's go out" thing. But she did bring up Breakfast at Tiffany's which, unbeknownst to her, was screening in town this weekend. I let on that I was going (never saw it before) and it would be great if she could go, too. Alas, she was working.
But when I got back from the movie, I made sure to drop her an email and tell her that I enjoyed it. I actually felt like I should try something at this point, so I upped the ante and said I had a couple days off, and that she had told me about a problem with her coumputer that I might be able to fix. Her email back was fairly long and conversational, continuing the same flirty tone from our conversation the other night.
She thanked me for writing a "real email" and not a "two-liner."
She responded to all the comments I wrote except the one about getting together to look into her computer problem.
See, my mind races at the thought... she could be playing hard to get, or this could be a polite indicator to back off. It seems to me my next move will have to be a little more aggressive. I don't want to keep this so tame that it dissolves into oblivion, but I don't want to push so much that I scare her away.
Please, stop my head from spinning!
I feel that if I can get through the first few volleys of this game and be comfortable, things will proceed more naturally. But right now, I'm totally volatile and run by hormones.
Last time I posted, I was agonizing over chatting up someone I didn't really know. I came out of that one a better person, though she was already taken.
But now, I've run into someone that I had met previously, and in Kevin Smith parlance, I felt we "shared a moment." Not on the level of defining the rest of my life, mind you, just a very intense feeling of compatibility and understanding stemming from long conversation.
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, let the infatuation begin.
You see, this is the point where I become a shattered man, trying my darndest to maintain composure. To be brutally honest, my experience at this stage is nearly none. I want to steer myself through the craziness of this first stage so that I can actually get to the point where I can be comfortable around this woman and figure out if something is happening. That's why I'm appealing to the wizened elders of the After Hours Lounge to impart soothing advice to help me keep my wits and make the best decisions until I can think straight.
Here's where I stand. At one point in my conversation with this lovely lady, she gave me her email address and said I should write her so she can send me a cool link. Because this was a gathering of some friends, I didn't feel comfortable trying the really forward "Hey, let's go out" thing. But she did bring up Breakfast at Tiffany's which, unbeknownst to her, was screening in town this weekend. I let on that I was going (never saw it before) and it would be great if she could go, too. Alas, she was working.
But when I got back from the movie, I made sure to drop her an email and tell her that I enjoyed it. I actually felt like I should try something at this point, so I upped the ante and said I had a couple days off, and that she had told me about a problem with her coumputer that I might be able to fix. Her email back was fairly long and conversational, continuing the same flirty tone from our conversation the other night.
She thanked me for writing a "real email" and not a "two-liner."
She responded to all the comments I wrote except the one about getting together to look into her computer problem.
See, my mind races at the thought... she could be playing hard to get, or this could be a polite indicator to back off. It seems to me my next move will have to be a little more aggressive. I don't want to keep this so tame that it dissolves into oblivion, but I don't want to push so much that I scare her away.
Please, stop my head from spinning!
I feel that if I can get through the first few volleys of this game and be comfortable, things will proceed more naturally. But right now, I'm totally volatile and run by hormones.