Loaning out my DVDs just doesn't seem to be working out but I just don't know how to handle those who seem to believe that my collection is for their personal enjoyment. First of all, a family moved in the neighborhood and upon visiting my home and noticing my collection, they immediately asked to borrow a dvd. They had it for several days and then went out of town and even when they came home, they still kept it for several more days before returning it. It appeared that they were embarrassed about keeping it so long and I thought I wouldn't have to face that again, but then last weekend, they borrowed another one and they still have it. To make things worse, they have children ages 4 and 2 and I've noticed they are usually the ones loading the dvds into the player. Then my brother buys a dvd player and comes over and takes a handful of dvds home with him for a week. That isn't so bad as I know my brother takes care of things very well.... but he has some ass-itch stepkids and 2 grandchildren who respect nothing and tear up his stuff all the time. He says he keeps my dvds out of reach and put away from others getting their hands on them but I went over the other day and there they were... sitting on a table out in sight and in reach of everyone. I have already noted that 2 out of the last 4 he borrowed had light abrasions and one appeared to have a piece of food on it. I find myself worrying about this stuff too often but just don't know how to handle refusing to loan my dvds. I'm sure this occurs to a lot of you; so... how do you handle these situations?