Got home last night .... (1 Viewer)

[Bill_Weinreich]

My entire living room was REARRANGED
My fiance "Wanted a change" so she decided to disconnect my HT and move all the furniture. Said all I hade to do was hook it back up. Every wire was removed, speaker grill busted, and reciever left on without speakers. I was livid!!! Took me 5 hours to redo and I still havent calibrated. All this two days after she asked me about moving the furniture. (of course I said no)
Oh well,
Bill

 

[Evan S]

I have my SO so in fear of my HT setup she doesn't even want to hold the remote. Your wife has balls. Either that or you haven't instilled the proper respect for your gear
Just kidding, but I would be mad if my stuff was damaged in any way as your stuff appears to have been. Did she at least apologize for breaking the grille?

 

[Julie K]

Either that or you haven't instilled the proper respect for your gear

It's not just a question of respect for the gear. I see it as a problem with respect for a person.

Bill, I think you and your fiancee need a long chat about these issues. I don't know if your house and furniture are all 'yours' and not co-owned with your fiancee, however, I think moving the furniture in any case while you were gone shows a rather serious lack of respect for you and your wishes.

On the other hand, I think you are going to have to compromise on many things once you're married. Re-arranging furniture at times may be one of those things. Remember, you are not going to get your way 100% of the time and "of course not" is not a good grounds for negotiating compromises.

 

[Earl J]

Bill,
No way!!! So how did she take the break up?
Earl

 

[Bill_Weinreich]

I see it as a problem with respect for a person.

Couldnt agree more. Disrespecting ranks right up there with lying (My #1 pet peave).
Bill

 

[Morgan Jolley]

I'm sorry, but your grief just made my day for some reason

 

[Deane Johnson]

Bill, it seems to me this was a wake up call. Julie has it right. There's a lack of respect here.

Deane

 

[Mike boettner]

You should ask her if she has ever seen the movie "Das BOOT"!(as in, see ya!)
My wife knows the minimum to play a movie, that's it. She doesn't touch my electronics and neither do my kids. but we did make a compromise on the living room/theater lay out. she hates the fact that we have 4 tower speakers in it.
Isn't love great?
Mike

 

[Earl J]

Bill,

Rearrange the guest list for the wedding by removing some of her friends and family. Add the names of those that have replied to this thread. Tell her the list just "needed a change..."

Earl

 

[Richard Travale]

Bill,
Isn't it a shame that she wrecked some of your gear in doing this. Now you have to spend the time looking for brand new stuff to replace it.

 

[Bill_Weinreich]

Yeh Richard, DAMN SHAME

 

[Brian Harnish]

I say it definitely is a total lack of respect for you -- especially since she broke your speaker grill while doing it. This b**** doesn't need talking to -- she needs the boot. Get her out of your life before you catch her cheating on you with another guy.

 

[Travis Hedger]

Bill, I feel your pain.

I have found there is NOTHING that can be done when the SO wants to rearrange the furniture. Same thing for when she tidy's up the office. Receipts are missing for weeks when she does that as I can't find certain items where I left em at.

 

[Jim_C]

Julie and Deane have it right. I wouldn't go to the extremes that some have suggested (yes, I know most were just jokes) but I would have a talk with her about this situation. I might not focus on the furniture moving as much as the complete disregard of your stated wishes. It might only be the HT now but it could end up being many other things.

Be prepared to compromise in marriage. My wife quietly lets me do what I want in the living room, even though she'd rather do it another way. The point here is that she might not agree with my desires on this issue but she respects that its important to me and accepts it. I do the same thing with other issues that are important to her. Its not because I'm scared of sending her off the deep end, it's because I respect her wishes and understand that its important to her.

 

[Andrew W]

Women and furniture, they just don't listen.

I had spent 3 days laying a new wood floor in the family room and we put the sofa back in. Wife suggested moving it to another wall. I said it wouldn't fit and explained what other pieces would have to be moved and how it wouldn't work. I've got "calibrated eyes" and I knew it wouldn't fit. OK, she agrees. I go out to run some errands and come home and she's dragged the sofa across the room putting gouges across the middle of the new floor. I don't think I've ever been so mad at her in my life. (And of course it didn't fit that way and we had to put it back.)

 

[Julie K]

Women and furniture, they just don't listen.

There's no need for such sweeping generalizations. Remember there are women here on the HTF and we are likely to feel as protective of our home theaters as you do.

(BTW, a demonstration with a tape measure would have prevented the occurrence.)

 

[Frank Anderson]

Another vote for Julie's wisdom:

I think moving the furniture in any case while you were gone shows a rather serious lack of respect for you and your wishes

Of course this is not the first time that wisdom has made an appearance here.

 

[Pamela]

I agree that a lack of respect has been shown. You need to have a serious talk and both set some boundaries.

This b**** doesn't need talking to -- she needs the boot. Get her out of your life before you catch her cheating on you with another guy.

Using the term b**** is completely uneccesary. And what this situation has to do with the possibility of cheating is way beyond my comprehension.:rolleyes

 

[Bill_Weinreich]

Woah!!!
I wasnt trying to start a female bashing thread. I was just telling my tale.
After 4 years together, we tend to push each others boundaries. Mine was found. All couples will have issues to resolve, this is just one.

I've got "calibrated eyes" and I knew it wouldn't fit.

 

[Steve Owen]

I just showed this thread to my wife... she's horrified and disgusted that your fiance would do that against your wishes.

BTW, she love's EarlJ's suggestion about the guest list. Fair is fair.

-Steve & Jenn