Okay, here is the situation. I listed an expensive collection of Misfits records on Ebay. The auction ended today at like 1,168 dollars. (Much less than I would have liked to have but what the hey) I listed in my auction that anyone with negative feedback email me before bidding and let me know the circumstances. Someone with I think it was 14 negatives bid. She emailed me AFTER she bid but let me know the circumstances which was this: She was a seller and her husband moved out and took the computer (his) and she was unable to get in contact with her buyers and let them know the situation. She finally got into contact with them but by that time they had left negative feedbacks. I checked her feedback and it was all under selling not buying. She had over 100 and something positives on being a buyer. She told me she would not bid on this auction if she didn't have the money to pay for it with. Well at the last moments of the auction she was being outbid and she finally became the high bidder and won the auction. My auction clearly states that these items are to be shipped with manditory insurance. She is writing me back and forth and is excited that she won because this is going to be a gift for her boyfriend who has been wanting many of the albums listed in my collection. THEN she emails and ask if she can meet up with me to get the albums because she doesn't live very far away from me and doesn't mind the drive. I email her back and say no, I would feel safer if you just mailed me the US postal money order for the auction and allowed me to ship you these items. Adruptly the emails stopped. So I go talking to my friends and they said what the heck, let her come up and get the albums, just make sure you meet at a public place and get a US postal money order. (they can't be faked and if they can it's a federal offense that way) So I give in and say okay and email her to let her know if she wants to pick them up this weekend like her email said that it's acceptable to me but that I would need her to email me or call me (I gave her my cell number) and let me know and that if she needed directions to let me know as well. No response. Does this sound like someone that was moments ago so anxious to get these albums? I emailed her an invoice via Ebay with the same message on it and to phone me or email me. (payment is due within 7 days of my auctions end) I'm trying to play it cool and give her the benifit of the doubt but I'm starting to worry on this one guys and gals. I don't want to get ripped off. I told her in my email and in the ebay invoice that if she didn't want to come pick them up after all that she would need to email me the money order so I could ship these out to her and gave her a shipping price so she could add it onto the auctions final price. How long till I really start worrying? Ebay gives me an option of selling to the highest under bidder, it's called "second chance" but I have to wait 7 days before I can do that (I really needed this money bad which is the only reason I finally put them up on auction)and she knew that. The final cost of listing this item after Ebay takes their share out was around 40 dollars. Will Ebay refund that off my credit card if she turns out to be what I fear the most....a DEAD beat bidder? What should I do and how long should I wait before I email her again. I don't want to be a nag as that would tick me off if I were a buyer.