When I was little, I admit that he was. He used to leave my mom to take care of me for days or weeks on end, he constantly did drugs, he cheated on my mom, he used me to get women while still married to my mom, he smacked me around quite a few times, had a bad temper, was very irresponsible, never kept a job long, wouldn't let me have pets so my mom would go behind his back to get me dogs cats and fish, yelled at me constantly, etc. There were times when he was nice. He'd take me out to breakfast, bring me to parks, bring me up in gliders, brought me to Disney World and other amusement parks, visit me constantly when I was sick in hospitals, bring me for rides on his motorcycle, bring me in his boat, bring me fishing, and other fun stuff. This didn't really make up for him being a real ass, but at least he would try sometimes. He was married before marrying my mom too. He had a daughter with his first wife. They ended up having problems and breaking up. he didn't pay child support for his daughter, and ended up losing her to another man who adopted her. Because of this I really don't know my older sister. I only met her a couple times after she grew up. My mom and dad divorced when I was 5. he would on visit me when he felt like. He was usually always late when he was supposed to get me. I'd end up not wanting to go after wating so long, and he'd end up blaming my mom. All in all he only paid 75 dollars my whole life till I was 18 for child support. He used to even have the gall to ask my mom for money to buy me presents and to take me out. My mom could have been like his first wife and have my stepfather adopt me, but she gave my dad the benefit of the doubt, and said that at least he saw me. Now jump 10 years later. My younger sister has been born and is 4, while my uncle comes to visit us for 2 weeks, which turned into him staying here forever. He ends up hating my dad and saying he's a real asshole and all this other stuff. Turns out he has a few demons in his closet too(add what my dad did when I was young, 4 marriages big drug addiction, and more), and has less than no right to complain. They end up clashing and I don't see my dad for like a year, which was the second time he did this to me. My uncle plays this game where he pretty much blames me for my dad being my dad and makes me feel like total shit every day due to it. It finally stops after a while. Now come to 2 years ago. My mom and stepfathe divorce. She goes through a similar thing with my sister's father with child support as with my dad. My dad starts saying that he feels that he was a lousy father. I felt like saying that in a lot of respects he was, but kept my mouth shut. He started doing more stuff with me, was nicer to me, started giving me money, and so on. Come last October. This is the last time my sister sees her father. We still haven't heard from him till this day. he could of at least called or sent a card on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and my sister's birthday 3 days after Christmas, but didn't. Even my dad never forgot this, through all the bad stuff he did. He sent me cards on the 2 times I didn't see him for a year. He even thinks it's terrible about my sister's father not contacting her. My dad felt terrible, o he gave me money to take my sister out when i didn't have the money. He started talking to her more too. At Christmas time he took me and her out to see the lights. Just this past weekend he took us to see the wolves and paid for the whole thing. he even gave my sister 20 dollars for the gift shop. He did all this without batting an eye and without her being his. It was real hard to get him to do that with me when I was little. I think he's starting to change. With him changing and doing better, my uncle still hates him and thinks he's an asshole. So does my dad sound bad now? I know he was when I was younger, but not now. Wish my uncle would see it.