Bill Wheatley
Agent
- Joined
- Jun 30, 1997
- Messages
- 34
I’d know my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We had been dating about a year and during the past few months she’d been telling me she loves me. The feelings were definitely mutual. This was the greatest woman I’d ever dated and I felt there was a long future ahead of us. I had never had feelings this strong for another person... ever! About three weeks ago, very unexpectedly and without much of an explanation, she ended it. I was, and still am, devastated.
What I find puzzling is that when turning to my friends for support they all kind of act like it’s no big deal. “More fish in the sea” is a common response. Or even better... "She sounds like a crazy bitch, you can do better." Is that supposed to be comforting?
A few days after the break-up friends would come up to me and say, “You seem a little out of it. Everything OK?” No goddamn it! Everything is not OK and you know why! What... I can be upset the day of the break-up and maybe the day after, but two days after I’m supposed to be my old cheerful self... WTF!
I think of it this way... what if (god forbid) she had died. People would have come flocking offering sympathy and support. I get dumped and I get the attitude of, “get over it.” But to me, a loss is a loss. Here is a person who has been an integral part of my everyday life for quite a while and and now she's gone. What's the difference? Two days later I’m supposed to go on business as usual. Business as usual involved her!
Is this how everyone views a breakup... am I missing something here?
What I find puzzling is that when turning to my friends for support they all kind of act like it’s no big deal. “More fish in the sea” is a common response. Or even better... "She sounds like a crazy bitch, you can do better." Is that supposed to be comforting?
A few days after the break-up friends would come up to me and say, “You seem a little out of it. Everything OK?” No goddamn it! Everything is not OK and you know why! What... I can be upset the day of the break-up and maybe the day after, but two days after I’m supposed to be my old cheerful self... WTF!
I think of it this way... what if (god forbid) she had died. People would have come flocking offering sympathy and support. I get dumped and I get the attitude of, “get over it.” But to me, a loss is a loss. Here is a person who has been an integral part of my everyday life for quite a while and and now she's gone. What's the difference? Two days later I’m supposed to go on business as usual. Business as usual involved her!
Is this how everyone views a breakup... am I missing something here?