Do gay spouses wear wedding bands?

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  1. Steven K

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    First off, this is in no way meant to be a religious or political question or topic, so don't even go there.

    My wife and I were at the mall this past weekend and we stopped in a jewelry store to inquire about getting our wedding bands engraved. While we were there, we observed two seperate homosexual couples (both malemale) come in to the store and inquire about wedding bands... which led to my wife and I wondering if this is common practice.

    Obviously not all homosexual peopls involved in relationships would engage in this. However, what about those people who are in what they would consider to be an equivalent of marriage? Namely, in those states that do not recognize homosexual unions as being legal (all states save Vermont and Hawaii, I believe).

    We were just curious... please dont turn this into a taboo topic.
     
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    It's not terribly common around here, but I think I live in an anti-relationship culture in general.
    Would I do it? Probably. I always thought it would be cool to get the bands tattooed on, though. [​IMG]
     
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    About 50% here from my experience.
     
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    In my experience, some do, some don't.

    A couple of very good friends of mine (a male/male couple) wear matching engagement rings and wedding bands. They also had a wedding with 250 guests, rehearsal dinner, elaborate ceremony, reception, five attendants on each side -- the whole nine yeards. They are adamant that their marriage is no different from a heterosexual marriage (in terms of their relationship), so naturally they have adopted all of the conventional symbols -- including wedding bands.
     
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    I personally wouldn't, not because I'm against wedding bands, but because I can't stand rings [​IMG]
     
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    Not the ones I meet in bars.[​IMG]
    Seriously, I think that it's fairly common. It's a way of expressing unity. Kind of sweet, sticky, and syrupy enough for me to gag...IMO of course.[​IMG]
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    My spouse & I have been together for just over 6 years. We do not wear wedding bands, not because we're opposed to the idea, but simply because we don't like to wear rings. I wear a gold chain he bought me and he doesn't wear any jewelry at all. The symbolism is fine, but we know without it how much we mean to each other, and those who know us well realize the depth of our relationship.
     
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    I know several people who are "civil unioned" and they all wear wedding bands. I'm certain there are many who wear them but have not gone through the official civil union process.
     
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    I probably would, if I could MEET ANYONE!
     
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    As the above replies state, yes...some do and some don't.
    I haven't worn one, but would.
     
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    My feelings on the matter may echo, but A)I hate wearing jewelry on my fingers or wrists B)don't feel it's necessary to mimic heterosexual traditions and customs
     
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    You are right, it isn't necessary, but I would like some sort of new tradition. That is why Rain's idea sounds appealing.
     
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    Why limit ourselves to tattoos? How about body piercings? [​IMG]
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