Though never in that situation I can empathize with the way it went--the unreality of it! Only afterwards can a more common sense resolution be comfortably imagined. In the late 1980s I encountered the daughter of silent film star John Gilbert, who had written a book on him that I had recently read. I actually said quite a bit of to her about my reaction to the bittersweet nature of the book, and how well her writing came across in telling it. I was pleased by her intently hearing me out; not often I get to talk to an author in this regard, especially after having just read their book. By the way, at the same event were Kevin Brownlow and David Gill of the fabled "Hollywood" series. I only got to talk to Gill, who was quite affable.