Anybody ever meet someone special on the internet? (1 Viewer)

[Mike__D]

I broke up with my girlfriend whom I've dated for a year and 3 months. This was about a month ago. I should have ended it earlier, but stuck around to see if things would get better... they didn't.

Since most of my friends have wives or girlfriends, I knew it would be a long time for me to meet someone new. So to speed up the process, I joined an internet dating site for 3 months.

I only emailed 3 females so far, 2 had photos, the other did not. The one without the photo emails me back, with her pictures (I sent her mine). OH MY GOD!! She is so beautiful. She's like the type I'd see at a club and would consider "out of my league". On top of that, she's an attorney. I figured she's looking for a sophisticated, well spoken man... something I'm not (I'm sure those who have ever read my posts will agree). We exchanged a few emails, and I am completely blown away. She's much more down to earth than I could have ever imagined.

After a week of emailing each other, Monday night we finally IM'd each other, and did so for 2 hours. Last night we chatted for 3 hours, until 1 am. I'm still in shock I think. I mean, I have yet to see her in person, or even hear her voice. But somehow, I think she's the ONE. How the hell is this possible? We have so much in common and see eye to eye on lots of subjects. I know she's really into me too. She loves to laugh and I've done a good job at that... along with being nice and sweet, which I am to all females.

Has anyone done this before? Did you get worked up before the in-person meeting, only to be dissappointed somehow? Seriously, if she's half as good looking in person as her photos, I'm a lucky guy.

Thoughts, comments?

Mike D.

 

[Rob Gillespie]

I've met several women over the web with whom I've become good (online) friends. One I spent a week with in Washington DC (my first time to the US!) and another I ended up being in a relationship with for 2.5 years and who is still my best friend (though she lived a bit closer )

 

[Andrew W]

If it seems like you get along, you should push for a meet ASAP. Dinner, drinks, coffee, something. A lot of people post fake photos and are not what they advertise. They can string you along on chat for months just for grins and they get off on it. Don't invest a lot of time and emotion until you know she's real.

 

[Mike__D]

A lot of people post fake photos and are not what they advertise

I don't believe this to be the case at all. I'd bet my life she's the real deal. With that said, I don't want to push for anything... I think it'll happen naturally... soon I hope though!

But yes, I do agree many people probably do this. But after sharing so many words with her, I HIGHLY doubt it isn't her.

Mike D.

 

[Patrick Sun]

Just go in expecting the worst, and be pleasantly surprised if her photo and online personality meets your expectations to her real life persona.

 

[AllanN]

I have met some friends on-line. But I tried Yahoo personals and got nowhere. I got one of the 4 types of women:

1: Women with absolutely no personality or real interests whatsoever.

2: Snobby women who only want to date rich jocks that drive sports cars and party all the time.

3: Crazy women, with one women I actually bought her excuse why she did not meet me, and tried to meet her again. I called after that and a guy picks up the phone. I ask for the girl and he says there is nobody there by that name. I get curious and reverse the phone number and its registered to a different female name in a completely different part of town that she said she lived in.

4: Porn advertisements.

What dating sites have you all tried? I have given up for now. Im just going to go back to being extra friendly to strangers I meet and keeping a keen eye open for that golden opportunity.

 

[PatrickM]

I personally have not since I knew my wife since before the Internet was mainstream but a friend of mine met some people through the internet for dating purposes and he ended up marrying a very nice woman and they now have a daughter together so it worked out for him.

Patrick

 

[Chris Beveridge]

Yep.

Met her online, living in MA while she was in VA. Talked online for a year as friends and then got serious. Talked on the phone for several months. Met her for a week at her house over Christmas. She visited me during Valentines. She moved in with me two months later.

Total time together in person prior to move-in: 7 days

Married now 4 1/2 years, have a 2 1/2 year old and a new baby due in five weeks.

I've met, quite literally, hundreds of people from online in person over the years. First as a gamemaster for a pay MUD and then over the last four years running animeondvd.com. Lots of great people, lots of new friends in my life.

 

[Agee Bassett]

 

[Ryan Wright]

OH MY GOD!! She is so beautiful. She's like the type I'd see at a club and would consider "out of my league". On top of that, she's an attorney.

Dude, she's probably a 50 year old male still living with his mother.
In reality - I've never met anyone on "The Internet", but I dated a few people I met on BBSs back before the net was widely available. It's amazing how close you can get to someone you haven't even met yet.
Everyone else here has good advice for you. Enjoy "her", but don't invest all that you are into it until you've met. Make sure she's the real deal first.

 

[Mike__D]

Nice to hear some of these success stories! I'm glad some of you were able to make something great out of it! I hope I can join your ranks.
I tried the Excite personals about 2 years ago when they were free. Yeah, most were a scam. I would recieve an email, asking me to call a 1-800 number because they can't give out there real number because they were "stalked" before. They got me on the first one. Luckily that conversation lasted but 5 minutes. That's when similar & exact emails from different people came in. So I gave up.
But I joined match.com (ironically, match.com is now used for Excite personals, and is not free). Since it's a paysite I figured I'd be safe, and so far so good < knock on wood >
LOL, thanks for the warning Agee
Mike D.

 

[Mark Schermerhorn]

Oh calm down you guys, I think you all watch too many sensationalistic TV programs :p I've been on match.com for about a year. I haven't attempted to meet anyone in the past few months, but I've been out with 4 girls and had a great time with all of them. They were all basically what I expected (with variance based on the fact that emails and phone chats don't reveal everything). 2 weren't for me, but one of those became a great friend of mine, and the other two, well, we had a pretty good time Nothing that lasted but hey, that's how it goes. In general pay sites discourage liars. It's also pretty easy to screen out psychos before you meet them...they all have obvious warning signs on em

 

[Mark Schermerhorn]

Mike I must warn you though...a lot of what you think of a person is created by their presence (I'm not even talking about their appearance). Without that, you create what their presence would normally convey, and it's usually created in such a way that you like it (big shocker, right?). People are never exactly what you expect them to be. You don't anything about this girl, even if she's told you a fair amount. Bottom line: DO NOT build up big expectations before you go on at least a few dates or you're setting yourself up, really badly. When you start saying "I think she's the one" you really worry me.

I've been meeting people from the online world for 7 years (for dates, to hang out, even concerts with a few ppl) and it's always interesting to see how people are different than what you expect.

 

[BrianB]

I met my wife online.

 

[MikeAlletto]

I have found out that most of the woman that put up online profiles have something wrong with them, either physically or mentally. They tend to be online because they can easily hide their problems until you actually meet them. Just my experiences though, so who knows what you may see.

 

[Philip_G]

I used to be heavily addicted to IRC (now just message boards, moving up in the world) and met my exgf/roommate/best friend there. We dated for 3 years, moved across the country together, broke up, and now are roommates. Go figure.

 

[Mike__D]

People are never exactly what you expect them to be. You don't anything about this girl, even if she's told you a fair amount

I agree. But I am usually a good judge of character. Maybe I am getting a bit carried away with the "ONE" comment, but honestly, I never really thought that before. My gut feeling has rarely let me down. And I have dated much! I have a pretty good understanding of their differences between us males.

I'm going to dig in deeper tonight to see what little secrets I can find out. Maybe she's a bitch waiting to come out? Who knows. My last GF was the sweetest thing until close to the year mark, then she turned her true colors.

I'll tell you what, if most females think after they get comfortable with you they can rag on you for everything and basically use you as a door mat, then I'll be single for a long time. I do realize it takes long to know somebody, but I look forward to see what unfolds, whether or not I like what's on the other side.

Mike D.

 

[Rain]

If you are referring only to romantic type relationships, the internet has never worked for me.

On the other hand, I'm happy to say that I've met some very good friends that way, including a few on this very forum.

 

[Christopher P]

I haven't met anyone too special, but have met some pretty nice women over the past year or so online. Only one or two have been through internet personals though, most have been through chat rooms, primarily MSN. Many have qualms about meeting someone too soon, for one reason or another, but I agree about trying to meet early on. At least if you bring it up, you will find out how sincere they are about meeting in person. Some people just like to have pen/chat pals. And if that's the case, it's best to find that out up front.

I think you can get a pretty good feel for someone just by IMing and talking on the phone, but you will never really know ho they are or how you will interact with them and feel around them till you meet in person. And I never go in with high expectations. If it works out, super, If not, maybe you made a new friend. If it goes horribly, you lost a few hours out of your day, and a chat partner. Good luck to you.

Chris

 

[Bill Slack]

One of my best friends met his wife online. Not through a dating site though. They played some online game together and had similar interests... And eventually got together, and just got married a few weeks ago. She's awesome, and they make a great couple. But they didn't go out there looking for love...
I've met many folks that I talk to online and become good friends with a few. Occasionally folks that represent themselves one way online turn out to be pathological liars, but I suppose that happens in 'real life' too.
I've never tried any of the dating services online, but friends that have had generally not had much success with them, I'm afraid. Still, they haven't been awful experiences, either. And it's not like every date or phone number you get turns into a relationship either (there's an understatement!)
Try to avoid 'falling in love' online though... That just seems like a bad idea to me. You really need to be with a person to really know them, I think.