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Discussion in 'After Hours Lounge (Off Topic)' started by Jason L., Oct 18, 2004.

  1. Jason L.

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    *** PLEASE, LET'S KEEP THIS THREAD TASTEFUL***

    Ok, I'm at work and while walking by I see this guy browsing the ads on this site [yes, at work]. For practically half the day, I'm transfixed as we look at personal ad after personal ad.

    What intrigued me the most [besides the pictures, and people with "unorthodox" tastes] was the average type of woman it attracts - an older, intelligent, secular, extroverted, unintimidated, aggressive, I-know-what-I-want-out-of-life, free-thinking woman with a high sex drive without hang-ups.

    Now granted, there definitely are a few freaks on the site as I mentioned above, but I think the majority fall into the category I just described.

    Personally, these are the sort of women that I am attracted to. What also struck me is how much cajones someone like this would have in posting these ads, "baring all" both in pictures and words. In my experience, almost all "normal" women are introverted, avoid risk, and are deeply afraid of rejection - and in my mind this leads to one thing - boring as hell.

    I am curious to see if there are any HTFers that have any experiences to share regarding this, and please let's keep it tasteful.
     
  2. Ricardo C

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    And I just figured out why you're single.
     
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    We have several friends who have used it with high degree of success.. you'd be surprised who hangs out there. Other ones of course, deal with other types of communities.. alt.com and bondage.com as examples [​IMG] But there are tons of them out there, it's a truly booming business model as well, you'd be shocked how much money they rake in.
     
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    of all the topics I never thought I'd see on HTF...

    I'm just fascinated by the ads. They're strangley interesting to read.
     
  5. Robert_Gaither

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    I don't know what I'd say to friends, family, and co-workers if I ever landed one of these women in a serious relationship but what if you don't catch one of the wierd ones a person like this might of posted that could really embarrass you (maybe at another site explaining this person has a thing a person, inanimate objects, and farm animals...).
     
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    I was member for a month or so, thought it would be fun to browse the ads. Never sent out any emails (because you have to pay for that, and I didn't want to do that). The "women" who contacted me all sent me links to their porn sites, which of course are pay. So the extremely limited experience I had with it is that it's a big advertisement center for porn.
     
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    Actually, I know many couples who have met this way. It seems to be the singles bar of the new millenium for people over 30. Or even younger, who can't stand trolling the bar scene.


    I don't think people look at it, as being that strange anymore. It's pretty common now.

    I say, if it brings people together, more power to them.
     
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    Um, but Ricardo, it seems he is in Afghanistan right now, and used to work in Kuwait. I can see why he has that impression, considering the different cultures there.

    I do see a lot of introverted women who avoid risk - but that's when I visit Chinatown and the Asian-dominated areas of the local university. Many women born in Asia (China, Hong Kong, etc.) are like this - not anything like those hot-and-horny models you see on TV or the teenaged locals you see at the shopping mall everyday or internet personal ads. Virtually none of them go to bars, night clubs, or raves - and yes I have asked them!

    But, I don't consider them boring - sounds like laziness on the part of the accuser to me. [​IMG]

    Different cultures for different vultures!
     
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    C'mon, Zen you know that the singles bar of the new millenium for people over 30 is owned by Taffy Lewis...
     
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    I joined when I went through a breakup almost 2 years ago and was blanketing some meeting-type websites...there are some very(ahem) interesting stories on there. I did actually meet someone through there as well....didn't last real long, but she was exactly what she said and wasn't ugly by a long shot. You CAN meet people through there......I have and was happy with the results. Definitely not for everyone though......real religious and/or pious-type people need not apply[​IMG].
     
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    About midway through your description it started to sound like you are looking for a man with a vagina. [​IMG]



    I'm most certainly not making a claim that any stereotype can be applied universally, nor should you infer it. But is there any agreement that as far as sexual behavior goes, there are observable differences between the genders.



    Masculine - aggressive, initiates the contact, aroused by the physical appearance above most other traits, can enjoy the act of lovemaking with no other emotional attachment to the partner, uncomplicated, etc.



    Feminine - demure, needs a larger emotional commitment to the act to achieve satisfaction, worries more about being approachable/attractive than having a "good line", more inclined to attach emotions to a physical act, etc.



    Men can have feminine sex drives and women can have masculine sex drives, but I think the general tendency is for a person's sex drive to match their gender stereotype.



    Now I have zero experience with these online dating sites, but by your description alone I suspect that they are a haven for masculine sex drive types.



    Am I on to something here or am I just spewing bullshit? Even I'm not sure of the answer to that one.



    Brad
     
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    Brad, check out the science section of your local bookstore for books about human behavior...it will be enlightening.
     
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    Buzz, or girlfriend. [​IMG]

    And as Buzz says, tell someone. Bring a phone.



    This especially true when str8 guys have had few brews(or are drugged out) and want to hook up. These sites are filled with them. Have had many a friends attacked, after the fact.
     
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    I second this;







    The differences between men and women are a LOT less than you think when it comes to sexuality when it comes right down to it.



    Andrew
     
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    Yes, and a lot more than you think too...similar and different at the same time. That's the surprise. [​IMG]
     
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    Very true. Society has really made it rough though, it's perfectly ok for a man to enjoy his sexuality, he'll even be applauded for it. If a woman does the same thing she'll get a negative label attached to her for it.







    I think we're just as freaky, but just keep it hush-hush. The porn business rakes in nearly as much money every year as network TV (tens of billions of dollars).



    Perhaps it's a mindset, since you are already "going against the norm" (speaking at a society level), maybe it's easier to "let go" of other inhibitions as well.



    Andrew
     
  18. Jason L.

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    Thanks for the responses. I have found out that browsing the personal sites are a favorite pastime here overseas. It's about the only thing you can do to past the time without going bonkers.



    To whomever thought that I was "seeing" women in Kuwait and Afghanistan. Afghanistan is dangerous enough. I don't leave the base here for any reason. Kuwaiti women can be dangerous as well. There was a guy who worked in my department before I got there who started seeing a Kuwaiti girl. Her family got mad and told him to stop seeing her. He didn't - and they threw him off a balcony and he died.



    Brad, I never thought about it way. Maybe I am looking for a woman who has mindset of a guy. I have met more than a few women who act like guys. Typically, all of their friends are men - they have no women friends.



    It's just strange to browse the ads [and pictures] on AFF and see the brutal honesty that is displayed. These women

    clearly do not have an inferiority complex like their sisters.



    I'm also curious if anyone who has met someone on AFF had a problem "keeping up" with these uber-horny women. I had a buddy who had an affair. He said that he has a high sex drive, but that keeping both women satisfied was wearing him out, and that no one could possibly juggle more than 2 women at a time.



    Anyway, if there are any more experiences, keep them coming.
     
  19. ThomasC

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    Alrighty then.
     

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