A brief note to my Movies friends

Discussion in 'Movies' started by Seth Paxton, Jan 4, 2004.

  1. Seth Paxton

    Seth Paxton Lead Actor

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    This subject fits After Hours I suppose, but really most of the HTFers I speak with hang out here in Movies like I do and might likely not see this posting otherwise.

    I just wanted to say that I have been away from HTF for the most part over the last 3 weeks because my father was very ill due to smokers emphysema. On Jan 2 he passed away after I basically invoked his living will the day before. He had a very unfortunate turn for the worse on the 29th when his kidney's began to fail and a serious lung infection developed which led to a 3 system failure and a zero chance of survival diagnosis. Just 2 weeks before he seemed likely to be out by Xmas to give you some idea of how quickly this turned. He was 66.

    I'm not really asking for best wishes or pity, though I know many of you would gladly offer it. It has been painful but we were somewhat prepared for it and so we are getting through it. I've been through it before with a friend's death when I was 19 so I know to take it day by day and keep moving forward, it's just a matter of staying strong and doing so.

    It has made for a pretty lousy holiday season though I'm fortunate to have a great support group of family and friends and we have enjoyed our time together while dealing with this. Plus, my dad's attitude would have been to stay happy and not to dwell on it.

    Sadly he was unable to see ROTK which I had planned to do with him during Xmas. However he went to M&C:FWotW with me at Thanksgiving and loved it which makes for a very good memory tied to a very good film.

    Anyway, I will still be trying to catch up with the Oscar films and will be back on a more regular basis once some of this stuff gets taken care of. Talk to all of you soon.

    - Seth

    PS - I have to give the obvious advice to quit smoking if you currently do. Seeing firsthand how it destroyed his life the last few years, and especially the suffering over the last couple of weeks, would probably be enough to convince anyone to quit.
     
  2. Matt Stone

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    I'm so sorry, Seth.
     
  3. nolesrule

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    Seth, I'm sorry for your loss.

    It's never easy to see a loved one pass away, but being somewhat prepared for it does help, even if just a little.
     
  4. Nick Sievers

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    I know you didn't ask for it but my condolences are with you and your family, Seth. It is always tough going through holiday period's with a painful loss. Though it is good to hear you had a memorable experience with the art form that a lot of us and obviously you care so much about.
     
  5. Walter Kittel

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    As someone who went through a similar experience with my father many years ago, my thoughts are with you. Take care.

    - Walter.
     
  6. Vickie_M

    Vickie_M Producer

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    *HUG* Seth. If/when you go see Big Fish, please make sure you have someone you love with you to hold your hand.
     
  7. SteveGon

    SteveGon Executive Producer

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    Sorry to hear about your loss - I went through the same thing with my dad four years ago (heart problems). We didn't go out to the movies much, but the few times that we did are special memories.

    Take it easy.
     
  8. Edwin Pereyra

    Edwin Pereyra Producer

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    My condolences, Seth. Here’s hoping that you bounce back soon.

    ~Edwin
     
  9. Chuck Mayer

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    Seth,
    Thanks for sharing the sad news. We'll be thinking about you and your family, and I wish you the very best. If you need anything, just let us know.

    We appreciate your confidence and consideration.

    See you soon,
    Chuck
     
  10. Patrick Sun

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    Seth, my condolences go out to you and your family. A childhood friend's father went through the same thing almost 10 years ago, and it was a pretty painful ordeal for all involved.
     
  11. Craig S

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    My condolences, Seth, to you and yours. Do what you need to do, and we'll see you when you get back.
     
  12. Chad A Wright

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    Our prayers will be with you and your family.
     
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    Words are inadequate, but all we have. Sorry for your loss.
     
  14. Arman

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    Seth,

    Thanks for sharing that's very sad and heartbreaking news. Condolences, my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.

    Take care,
    Arman
     
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    Seth

    I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Your father sounded like a really great guy. Talk to you soon.

    Take care
    Stay well friend.
     
  16. Chris Farmer

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    My condolences and prayers are with you and your family Seth. I'm very saddened to hear this, having lost two grandparents to smoking, and I definitely second Seth's call to quit if you currently smoke.
     
  17. Brook K

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    I'm sorry for your loss, as George said, words are inadequate....
     
  18. Dennis Pagoulatos

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    My condolescences to you and your family, Seth. I lost some very close family in the last 5 years as well, and it isn't easy to deal with. It's good that you have a family/ friend support system, that really helps more than anything else.

    Take care and see you back on the board soon,

    -Dennis
     
  19. Lou Sytsma

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    Condolences to you and your family Seth.

    Having gone through a successful quadruple heart bypass with my Father last year I can empathize with your frame of mind.
     
  20. Holadem

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    And I thougth you were busy getting married. My condolences to you and your family. Stay strong.

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