Originally Posted by Zack Gibbs
Not so fast, I'd like to hear your answer to his question.
She realized she was in love with someone else. It's a tough situation to be in, but one that happens relatively frequently in life. Was she suppose to wait longer to tell Lucas? How does that make it hurt less, how is that more "moral?" Under different circumstances she may have wanted to wait before committing to House, but the facts of the matter was that Cuddy chose to be with him and he needed her then the most.
Which parts of that are immoral?
Let's flip the script. How did Cuddy feel about the Lucas before her House revelation? She loved him enough to live with him and accept his offer to spend the rest of her life with him? The show says yes. So it wasn't that she didn't think he'd be a great partner for her, great father to her baby, and someone she'd like to spend the rest of her life with. She just loves House "more" ? And in all the time she's known House, she was never honest with herself about those feelings? When she was accepting a marriage proposal, she didn't think, "I really need to make sure I'm over this House thing" ? Oh wait. She thought she was
over it, but when she saw House in a new light, that changed everything. But see, I say that only changes her feelings about House, not Lucas.
What's immoral (to me) is telling someone you're so sure about your feelings that you're willing to accept a proposal of marriage in which you agree to forsake all others, then within days, give yourself to another. If she could give herself to House so quickly after accepting a marriage proposal, she wasn't being honest with herself (or Lucas) in the first place. One could say she was as honest with herself as she could be, but I don't buy it. She's not a kid. I consider dishonesty immoral.
The show sets up the audiences acceptance of Cuddy's actions because the audience wants Cuddy/House. Couple that with the fact that most people don't accept the Cuddy/Lucas pairing. I don't like it either. However, if they have the character say she's in love, living with him, and accepting his marriage proposal, I put aside my own feelings about the coupling and accept what the writers outline as the situation.
Nowhere do I suggest she should wait to tell Lucas. If anything, I think she should have been honest about her feeling for House sooner. As for Cuddy deciding to be with House because he needed her then the most, what he needed was her friendship and support. He didn't need her professing her love and making out with him. Besides, you can't love someone out of an addiction. Anyone who has any real exposure to addicts will tell you how futile that usually is.
If you make far-reaching proclamations/promises that affect the lives of other people, then break them when the wind changes, I don't respect that. Adults need to think about their commitments before they make them. Would I prefer she stay with Lucas out of some sense of obligation? No. But I don't think you get to reward yourself with your new infatuation while destroying someone else's life either. I think you made a commitment to this person (even though she has no ring on her finger yet), and you don't get to be OK until you also do everything you can to make sure he's OK. That's what you do if you love someone (and all indications according to the show is that she does). New desires don't nullify previous commitments. Given that Cuddy's the one that's screwing up her relationship with Lucas, why is he
the only one who'll suffer? She'll just move on to House and leave Lucas in her wake?
Having feelings for someone and acting on them at the expense of all else is animalistic. It has more in common with Hedonism than civilized behavior. In civilized society, we realize there's more to life than immediate self gratification.
I say it's pointless to discuss because morality is subjective. I'm 99.9% sure there's nothing you or anyone else on this forum could say to change my opinion on what happened on the show, or what happens in real life. I think 50% divorce rates are laughable, but are only a symptom of the underlying attitude of the populace. There are things I enjoy discussing because I haven't given them serious thought and I like to have my ideas challenged to see if they stand up. If they don't, so be it. I'd rather be wrong-->informed-->right than wrong-->blocked-->wrong. There are even things I enjoy discussing where I'm sure I'm right, because even if I'm 99.9% sure of my opinion, there's that 00.1% chance I'll be exposed to something I haven't considered. But in this case, if I look at myself in the mirror, I have to admit I have little wiggle room. I've given the issues involved plenty
of thought, both before making commitments, and while having to live with them while "tugged" away from the commitment. I know what my conclusions are. But neither would I deny you your right to see the situation differently. In such situations, the best I can hope for is to respect your opinion and move on.