Posted January 10 2008 - 09:47 AM
| It clearly means he regrets being CAUGHT, instead of being ashamed that he broke his promise, lied to his mother (in fact, he's STILL lying), and started down a path that could lead to tragedy. |
Quite a cynical assumption, and not completely unfounded, but an assumption none the less. The only real fact we have in that regard is that he's denying whose
alcohol it was. That does nothing to excuse him from breaking the agreement or the need for consequences. But labeling him a liar clearly illustrates my point that people are forming broad generalizations about his character with very few facts to go on.
| He'll be "marginalized" only if he doesn't change and demonstrates responsibility |
Some people can muster this kind of bootstraps change in their life and some can't. It depends heavily on their family structure and their community. I hope for his sake that he can. But some people can have a lot more difficulty recovering from a degrading incident like this and it has nothing to do with their strength or fortitude as the "suck it up" crowd would have us believe. That is what is so insidious about using shame and humiliation as a teaching tactic. There are lots of other consequences that she could have chosen from after selling the car that would have had a better chance of ensuring what we all want, which is for him to straighten up and make better decisions. If she had used the same principal to make him apologize and talk to victims of DUIs it at least would have had some basis to teach consequences.
I'm a ****ing idiot 'cause I can't make a lamp?
No, you're a genius 'cause you can't make a lamp.
What do you know about trigonometry?
I could care less about trigonometry.
Did you know without trigonometry there would be no engineering? Without lamps there'd be no light.