Posted August 13 2004 - 02:34 PM
| It's going to be mostly speculation on the part of us males, so Pamela and Leila (or any other woman out there) will have to step up. Maybe it is all essentially the same for both genders? |
You know what? I think it is essentially the same for both genders, although men are taught to be the pursuers and women, the pursued. We don't worry as much about how to approach a guy. We try and figure out how to get the guy to approach us. But the rest—learning how to interact comfortably with the opposite sex, the ways to meet someone, and just being yourself—that's gender neutral.
| I do have one additional comment to make, however. I thought this thread was going fairly well, considering the type of thread it is. I will say, though, that I absolutely do not agree with some of the most recent comments. I think there are entirely too many generalizations about women in it, most of which do not apply to me. For what it's worth, that type of attitude is exactly what I find most unappealing. |
A big AMEN to that! I usually stay far, far away from these types of threads for that reason (although it's a lot like a train wreck. You can't help but take a look). It can be very uncomfortable, and to say I have been offended at times is putting it mildly. According to some of the generalizations that are bandied about this board, I am a pyscho-bitch shrew, desperate for a man, with no understanding or appreciation of electronics, who will allow nothing other than those "cute, little" Bose speakers in my home.
Guess what? Wrong on all counts! I'm not setting my trap for a man (don't even want to get married). I've got my head on straight, I'm independent, and I got me a pretty bitchin' little HT set-up.
| I think most of the men here have been offended by the notions presented in the infamous "Rules." I really don't see a difference between it and some of the "dating tips for men" sites out there. |
Agreed, those "Rules" are no better than the Don Juan sites. A bunch of bunk all the way around. I can honestly say that I have never known one female friend who applied those rules to dating. I don't know that it is as prevalent as you may be lead to believe.
Ok, off my soapbox. Don't want y'all to think I'm a pyscho-bitch shrew, er somethin'!