I don't know about a lot of people that get married but our ceremony was at 5pm and our reception started at 7pm and by the time we got done with dancing, smiling, etc it was 1am and when we got back to our hotel we were both so tired we just wanted to SLEEP.
We spent the entire weekend at Fenway Park. Honestly, I wonder if anyone has sex on their wedding night anymore. I can tell you that it was the last thing on my mind... save it for the airplane lavatory the next day.
I can't believe so many guys are perfectly willing to basically say, "My life is now over. For the rest of my days all decisions that affect me are for you to decide, honey!"I've harped and harped on this forum about this very issue. The answer is to marry the right woman.
It's all about respect, and it's a two way street. When you have a mortgage and car payments and other bills to pay, you don't run out and spend several thousand dollars on a new toy without consulting your wife. Afterall, she is bringing in half the money.
I got around this by marrying a woman who wants to stay home and raise the kids. I can therefore spend money on whatever I damn well please without asking for permission: I earn it all and I manage 100% of the finances, so if there is extra money in the budget, I do what I like with it. The only caveat is that everything costs me twice as much, because if I spend $100 on a toy, I'm obligated to let her do the same - fair is fair. As it turns out, I spend twice as much on her as I do myself, so this has never been an issue.
A large number of men choose to marry controlling women. They want a motherly figure in their lives, and they get one. Then he wonders why she controls his life. A friend of mine married a woman like this - she says jump, he says how high. He's 28 years old and he has a bedtime. I shit you not. If we want to get together, he has to ask permission - which, more often than not, is denied, so I don't see him as often as I'd like.
I don't have any of these problems in my marriage. Sure, there are times when I have to decline invitations because I have prior obligations with my family. But it's not a matter of "Honey can I?". If we're just having a lazy evening and a buddy wants to see a movie, we go. If my wife wants to come I take her with me and the kids play at Grandma's.
It just depends on who you marry. Marry a controlling woman and she will wear the pants in the marriage. Marry someone who respects the man as the head of the household, treat her right (ie, don't be controlling, be the head of your household - there is a difference), and you're set. When I wanted a 65" HDTV my wife said, "Sure, if it makes you happy." When she wanted a new truck, I said the same.
