What's the best way to approach the ladies? (1 Viewer)

[Patrick Sun]

Lew, I think you mean to type "conversation" not "conservation" unless you think Neil is only interested in approaching eco-friendly ladies.

 

[Lew Crippen]

Indeed Patrick.

Though to be sure, I consider women to be a precious natural resource. Who should be conserved.

Fortunately this is a renewable resource.

The point, I think of this thread.

 

[Zen Butler]

Yes Neil, be real. Lew and the others have got it right.


Don 't try any of my crazy concoctions, even though every single one of them is fool proof.

 

[Danny Tse]

Except for "Hi" or "Hello", no pick up lines.

 

[D. Scott MacDonald]

I'm saddened to hear that this is no longer possible. I guess I'll have to divorce my wife now since there is apparently no other option.

 

[DeathStar1]

Except for "Hi" or "Hello", no pick up lines. >>

Perhaps pickup line was the wrong word to use. Couldn't think of a better term to use. Conversation starter dosn't sound right either, heh.

*Edit* Ice Breaker was the phraze I was looking for .

 

[Chris]

The best thing to do or say is something like this:

"Hello. It's a nice day out, don't you think?"

End with a question if you can to start talking to this person. Converse with people like you would a friend, it goes farther.

 

[Joe Szott]

The real key to meeting (or picking up) someone new is getting the conversation going. Once it is started, it will either work out on it's own or it won't. The hard part is getting that initial conversation going. The best way to break the ice and do that Neil is to start talking in a completely safe and natural situation. For example, talking to a girl in a pottery class you share about what type of clay you like, or asking someone to dance at a bar (that has dancing obviously.) These things don't come off as 'pick up lines' in those situations, so they tend to work a lot more. The essence of this is idea is that it is not so important what you say or how you say it, but that it leads to more conversation and possibilities.

Your problem here Neil is that girls walking around the beach or hanging out at the boardwalk aren't there to talk to strangers, so making that initial ice breaker is going to be difficult. A muscle bound face man could easily start one with any one of them, but us mortals are pretty much stuck in a rut.

What I suggest is take note of what they are all doing there. Are a lot of them playing volleyball? Surfing? Something else? If so, try joining in on that activity and you'll have an instant ice breaker soon. It works like a charm, but takes a little more effort than a pick up line. Once you know how to talk to people, they're all pretty much the same.


For example, in college I took some acting/theater courses. The girl/guy ratio was about 10:1 which for an engineer like me was staggering. The great part is I could always talk to anyone of them about acting or our "scenes" and it was an instant in to conversation with them (and their roommates too.) I didn't get a lot of sex out of it (don't want to mislead), but it didn't hurt that I could always find a cute girl for escort to a school event or the odd cup of coffee.

Plus I eventually met my wife this way. She never had a chance, the poor girl

 

[Joe Spratley]

Here is the solution to your problem. Find a puppy to take for a walk. Either a friend's or volunteer at an animal shelter, or if you've always wanted one get one for yourself (just make sure your not getting one just for this purpose). You will then be inundated with girls that will run up to you and the puppy, and you will immediately have a conversation starter. Believe me you won't believe the number of girls you'll be talking to.



This guy either has a whole kennel of puppies or a 7 figure bank account:

 

[DeathStar1]

I have a dog, have had one for the past 15 years. Only problem is, no ladies are around when I walk him .

 

[Holadem]

Talk to as many women as possible, young, old, pretty, ugly, anyone that comes accross your way, anytime, anywhere, about anything.

Ya have to get comfortable talking to women in general before even thinking about hitting on them.

Next time you go out, pick a woman you have ZERO interest in, and start a conversation. Work your way up from there.

--
H - up to other women, not her skirt.

 

[Greg_R]

This is the attitude that causes failure. I know many women that hate the "muscle bound" type. Confidence is 98% of it... you have to go in to the conversation knowing that you are a great person and have something to offer.

 

[Garrett Lundy]

Scenario 1:
While driving your porsche slowly. Be sure to operate the gearshift smoothly as to make the light of the sun reflect off your diamond studded rolex into her eyes.

Scenario 2:
Cooly saunter upto the lass and say in your best Sean Connery "Bree Yark".
If you're both "in the know" she'll fall maddly in love with you and have sex with you on the spot.

Scenario 3:
How can you approach someone who you will never encounter grasshopper?

Scenario 4:
Approach and say "Hi, my name is Brad. Lovely day isn't it?". If she brushes you off try again a half hour later but use a different name. Repeat until she likes you and then have your name legally changed.

 

[Garrett Lundy]

This sums up my technique perfectly

Hot Chick: "Hey! That guys wearing a Dungeons & Dragons t-shirt, he can't have AIDs, lets get him!"

Me: "Ah, Rock-On!"

No seriosuly. I'm 60lbs overweight, have a D&D tattoo and still manage to have sex with multiple partners. Or maybe I just have a naturally high Charisma score

 

[Yee-Ming]

Good idea. I always found it easier to talk to women I had zero interest in, whereas those I was hot for, I'd get totally nervous and all. So "practice" first.

 

[Bob Turnbull]

And potentially miss out on a great deal of happiness and a truly rewarding partnership with someone you deeply love.

Don't get me wrong...I'm not pushing marriage. It's a choice. But any option can potentially have it's ups and downs (like deciding to have children). It absolutely IS possible to have a long wonderful marriage. Your cousin's ex just happened to be a jackass.

I agree with Holadem's advice to talk to as many women as possible...It gives you practice, shows you that you can be at ease with someone and will hopefully lead to some friendships with women. And remember, your friends who are women have other friends who are women...

 

[Dave_Brown]

actually, based on the type of picture, clear blue skies, interesting fountain design in the pool, I'm betting this photo was taken in Vegas and any guy can have this girl as long as he pays by the hour.

 

[Mike Broadman]

One way of thinking that should be changed is that some women are out of your league. Think of all the other guys who feel that way and don't approach women, or do but with a half-assed attitude that just screams, "You obviously don't want to talk to me, right?" which of course becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I personally do not talk to strange women in the hopes of "picking them up" because I just feel like I'm bothering them. But when I do, it's just with the attitude that I'm having fun- that the goal isn't to get them to go out with me (most of them are psychos- remember that you have to picky, too) but just to get some kicks at the moment. If I get a phone number or something, great. If not, that's fine, too. And, like Holadem said, it's good "practice."

 

[Moe Maishlish]

Yes... but is that with multiple partners at the same time?

Ah HA!

Moe.

 

[Julian Reville]

In the long run, renting could be cheaper than buying.