Excellent point. I think that is probably part of my motivation on starting this thread. The "No Regrets" philosophy also has a sort of "I'm flawless and I don't care what happens to others" mentality to it, which I find rather selfish and weak. Sure there is something to be said for not letting your mistakes drag you down, but denying them is no better. Actually, my ex wife became a spouting proponent of that sort of "My Truth", "Living in the moment" philosophy and took it to such an extreme it became a bigger impediment than any amount of guilt could have been. Plus, it was incredibly tiresome. ChristopherG, sorry about the situation. I don't have much trouble spilling my guts, so maybe my story will help you, that is, once I tell it.