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post #31 of 44
6/29/04 at 9:20am
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This may sound naïve, but the way I see it, if we both work, we should both share living expenses, and perhaps contribute equally to a mutual savings account for family expenses. But after the essentials are taken care of, we both should be able to spend our money any way we damn well please. If I have the spare cash to upgrade an HT component, and my obligations to the household have been covered, then I'll buy it if I want to, WAF be darned.

Does that sound reasonable, or will I be sleeping on the couch a lot?

That could work if both parties have similar incomes but that's rarely the case so it wouldn't be fair if you made twice what your wife did but equally contributed to the monthly expenses. Now if you both pooled your money and then gave each other $??? each month to spend as you like I don't see it being a problem what you spend your money on.
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post #32 of 44
6/29/04 at 1:06pm
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I've done my best to avoid that particular trap. Come close a couple times, but finally came to my senses.

But if I ever do, it'll be with someone as Jason Els described, "love me, love my stuff." If not, Sayonara.
Funny how you can pick out the single people by what they post. Marriage is all about give and take. If you want everything your way, stay single.
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post #33 of 44
6/29/04 at 2:13pm
Part of the "compatibility" aspect of relationships is finding someone with similar interests as yourself. If having an HT is of that much importance, then my suggestion is to find a woman who likes HTs, or is at least accepting of them.

I would not be as rigid as saying "my way or the highway" and I am certainly capable of compromise. But part of what makes it so easy in my marriage is having a husband who understands and accepts my hobbies. And I do the same. If it were any different we probably would have just deemed ourselves "not compatible" early on and probably wouldn't have gotten married, just because our major hobbies are that important to us.

Of course it is not necessary to share every single hobby and interest, but for major things, it helps. Find a wife that accepts your hobby. Believe me, we are out there.
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post #34 of 44
6/30/04 at 12:33am
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Believe me, we are out there.


WHERE????
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post #35 of 44
6/30/04 at 2:36am
There are easy going, non-high maintenance women out there amigo. I met many in college, church, and even on the internet. Never tried a dating hookup site but they're getting more popular.

www.womeninprison.com
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post #36 of 44
6/30/04 at 9:37am
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WHERE????


Yes, we are out there. We love big speakers. We love spending money on large, shiny electronic objects. SACD. DVD-A. TiVOs. iPods. Bose? Not on your life! Subwoofers? Hell yeah! Yes, we are out there.

You just need to look a little harder.
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post #37 of 44
6/30/04 at 9:43am
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We love big speakers.

Hey! What happened to "size doesn't matter".

Was it all a lie?
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post #38 of 44
6/30/04 at 9:49am
My wife recently went to a gaming convention with me. Not only did she attend, but she also waited in line for three hours with me to get a voucher for a convention exclusive statue. Then, when the convention hall opened, I had to go play in a tournament, so she stood in line for another hour to actually buy the statue.

Best wife ever.
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post #39 of 44
6/30/04 at 11:01am
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Hey! What happened to "size doesn't matter".

Was it all a lie



Yes. Yes, it is a myth. Perpetuated by men with little Bose speakers. We secretly prefer them big.
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post #40 of 44
6/30/04 at 11:05am
I hope all the Private Messages of marriage proposals flooding Pamela's Inbox after these last few posts don't crash the system.
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post #41 of 44
6/30/04 at 11:14am
My wife has explicitly told me that I can buy whatever HT stuff I want, and if she ever wins the lottery, I can buy my dream system with the winnings. If she was the type that demanded I be "reduced" to a 34", the marriage would have been a no go.
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post #42 of 44
6/30/04 at 9:04pm
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Hey! What happened to "size doesn't matter".

Cuts both ways, don't it? We can't be demanding 38" and turning down 32"...

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Best wife ever.

How many have you had then?
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post #43 of 44
7/5/04 at 7:45am
Umm wow, surprised it hasnt been mentioned. No one here has an allowance? I know it sounds childish, bit it KILLS so many arguments. My wife and I have an equal allowance. She usually spends hers every month on various things and I usually buy DVDs and CDs only for quite a while, while stockpiling for a major upgrade. Basically the amount we get is not huge, but big enough that anything is realistic if you have the willpower to save your own money. It works great.
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post #44 of 44
7/5/04 at 1:55pm
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