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Originally Posted by
Mike Frezon 
Ah. it's all clear to me now!
I was wondering what kind of photo gear a "Heavenwood" was! 
No kidding. I guess we just can't stick to lens lust around here...

RE: the camera gear recs, (the other) Mike, I think you probably want to decide on how serious you want to be about the photos (and lugging of gear) before deciding on which way to go, eg. cropped format vs full frame, expensive, heftier, better glass vs reasonably affordable, lessor glass, etc.
For instance, the Nikon D7000 would probably be optimal for your needs, except it'll completely break your budget 2-3x over *and* be heftier than most casual shooters would care to lug. And if you're not expecting to make very sizeable enlargements of those low light photos from the theater, indoor/nighttime sports, etc., you probably don't actually need to go full frame to be satisfied w/ the results -- you can always apply some NR on the occasional shots you want to enlarge, etc. to help that. Personally, I often like to see some "grain" in my low light shots anyway, but YMMV on that I guess.
Another thing to consider is that since both you and your wife are interested in using a DSLR, you might consider just starting out w/ the more affordable options and then add something like the D7000 later, if/when you do find the need. Then, you'll have one body for each of you for most uses -- and defer to the full frame body when the best low light quality is needed.
And yeah, I agree the Nikon 70-300VR is a very nice, fairly affordable telezoom. Hard to beat it w/out spending a whole lot more, especially ever since both Canon and Nikon hiked their prices a good deal for their 70-200 f/2.8 IS/VR glass (and also the 70-200 f/4 IS in Canon's case). Still, for your low light needs, the 70-300VR probably won't do (at least unless you're going for the D7000).
As some suggested, you'll probably want something like an 85 f/1.8 prime (as something affordable enough), if you can get close enough to the action. On the Nikon side, you might also consider adding a used 180 f/2.8 prime for the long end, particularly if you go w/ the 70-300VR and the 85 f/1.8 -- or just go straight to the 70-200 f/2.8 glass, if you can make that budgetary reach. Actually, if you're willing to consider the used market, you might also consider the popular, old Nikon 80-200 f/2.8 as well (whether the more expensive AFS model that's still a lot cheaper than the 70-200 f/2.8VR or the cheaper, old screw drive version, which supposedly isn't all that slow on focusing, but might be louder than you want).
_Man_