I had little desire to start, and have little desire to continue.
It's difficult to take someone seriously that he has no desire to antagonize when he responds to your viewpoint (one that I initially said I didn't want to get into, but which you nevertheless requested I share because you were "interested") with calling it "absurdity". Oh, and let's not forget that I "downgraded" to "not cool" (when if you go back to my original post, you will see that's exactly the term I used). Here, I'll help you.
Initial version of initial statement: "One day she's sleeping with the PI, and the next she's sleeping with House? Not cool."
Revised version of initial statement: "One day she's living with, sleeping with, and engaged to the PI, and the next she's giving herself to house? Not cool."
Downgrade, indeed. And then there's the attempt to slide in the possibility that I'm being dishonest, when by your own qualifiers, "If you don't recognize that, you're being dishonest with yourself as well." Really? If I didn't know (recognize) something, I'd be dishonest? See, statements like this suggest to me you have little interest in exploring my POV, but in touting your own while attempting to discredit mine. If only I understood who you want to discredit it with? Me? The HTF readership? What you seem to have have interest in is arguing (apparently to the universe) that my POV is wrong. That's the pointless conversation I wanted to avoid in the first place.
And before you pick a slanted interpretation of what I just said above about "not knowing something doesn't make you dishonest" to try to explain away Cuddy's actions, she absolutely did know how she felt about House. Her words were... "I try to move on... I try not to think about you, but it doesn't work." She knew exactly what she was struggling with when she accepted the proposal.
Oh, and the briefer I am, the more you chose the most unflattering interpretations of my words to suit your own purpose. Now I actually have not a care in the world if you choose to read my words wrong, but there's the possibility that people only vaguely following along may be mislead by your slant on what I say. So I use the amount of words I feel are necessary (within my personal limits).
"Now, what if the first job was just for the money? You were out of work and your kids need braces so you take the offer. Now the second offer comes, but it's not about a higher salary, this is a different job all together, your dream job, the career you've wanted your entire life, your one big shot. What do you do now, aren't you obligated to your personal commitments as much as anything else?"
Where the analogy falls apart is there is no expectation of a lifetime commitment with a job. My point is in my world view, "Is it better for me?" isn't a wildcard justification that excuses me from my commitments with disregard for the people I affect. By the way, flipping the script once again, I think if a person were interviewing for jobs and got a job offer, contacted other potential empoyers to let them know he'd accepted a job offer somewhere else, then had the job offer rescinded because a better applicant came along after the job offer went out, the applicant would think that's "not cool" too.
"If engagement were the commitment you make it out to be for instance, there would be no purpose to marriage at all."
Yes, there would be. The law and church only recognize marriage. And marriage normally involves the ceremony of a wedding. It takes time to plan and execute a wedding. But yes, I do believe that the commitments you make when you say "I do" are simply a public affirmation of what you've already agreed to with your partner by accepting the proposal. But let's hear what you think accepting a proposal means? "Honey, will you marry me?" / "Sure, if nothing changes. Let's just start planning it and see how it goes." Seriously?
"Even the furthest of relationships can react to one another. Cuddy's feelings for House absolutely changed her situation with Lucas."
If I have someone I've committed to because she fulfills me and meets my needs, a third party cannot negate that. If I have a partner that gives me what I need, and I develop a bond with that person that is significant enough for me to say, "OK, you're it for me," that would be my situation. No third party could change that situation (no matter how beautiful, rich, sexually outgoing, charming, famous, etc.) because that situation is between 2 people. If I develop feelings for a third party, it's on me to handle myself appropriately and honor my commitment. I would not allow it to change my situation with the person I've committed to. We're not animals. Cuddy's appreciation for House can only change her commit to Lucas if she lets it, because Lucas is still the man she committed to. Nothing about House becoming a better person changes who Lucas is.
Unfortunately, Lucas was never "it" for her in the first place. But neither does House change that fact. Call it projecting if you will, but I think the majority would agree with me that Lucas was never "it" for Cuddy. I say she never should have led him to believe he was. Sure it happens. That doesn't mean I'm going to say it's "OK".
"I will continue a healthy (or unhealthy) argument to the death."
I won't. Not on the internet. I don't argue to argue. As near as I can tell, you won't change your mind, and neither will I. So remind me again what's the point of this discussion? To recap...
Mikah: Morality is subjective, so if you don't see anything wrong with Cuddy's actions in this situation, nothing I can say is going to change that. I stand by my statement, you stand by yours, and we agree to disagree. Moving on.
Zach: Not so fast, I'd like to hear your answer to his question.
Admittedly, my first inclination was to either ignore you or ask you who you think you are to tell me "not so fast" when I politely communicate that I've decided a discussion has reached the point where it's time for me to move on (I say politely, because my actual though was, "A pointless waste of my very limited time and energy."), but I decided to humor you. Obviously that was a good decision on my part as we wouldn't have had a proper opportunity for you to point out the absurdity of my views otherwise. Now that I've humored you, I only ask that you define the criteria for completing the discussion so we know when we're there, because personally, I was there a long time ago. Once I understand your goal, perhaps I can do my part to help us get there quicker. Otherwise, it's an endless back and forth which accomplishes nothing, which fits "waste of time" IMO, especially since I have zero desire to change your mind.