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04-27-2005, 05:02 PM
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Neil
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Anyone ever try E-Harmony.com?
Just took the survey after seeing the commercial, and lo and behold I find out it's a pay service. Didn't notice that part of the commercial after a ten minute survey  .
Just wondering if anyone has tried it before and what your experience was like before I even think about signing up for payment.
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04-27-2005, 07:51 PM
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I've done plenty of e-dating sites including E-Harmony. Went through their 500 some odd questions, you know, to get the real me.  Sent it out, and in my area it said zero compatibilities. Umm ok, so widened my search to all of the US. Zero matches again. Getting a little confused so open it up to all on this green earth. ZERO. I let it sit for a month and got an email saying that my account was being closed due to no matches!! Talk about a low blow...I of course now flip off that dude in the commercials whenever he comes on.
Personally I like a site like Match.com. I've had luck on there, it's cheap(er) to contact someone and putting up a profile is free. Actually know two people that have gotten married through it. YMMV.  |
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04-27-2005, 08:18 PM
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I have a friend (seriously, I'm married) who tried that site about 6 months ago and had a very similar experience to Jason's....One match, and the woman didn't show up at their arranged first meet for coffee. No other matches, ever.
It makes you wonder about their so called personality test, and the size of their paid membership.
Carl
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04-27-2005, 09:19 PM
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As an industrial/organizational psychologist (in training), I am highly skeptical of the personality instrumentation utilized on that site. Long story short - it is an extremely tedious process to develop a quality personality measure, and very few currently used inventories are actually good ones. I would love to see the statistical properties of the tool and the research performed to develop it. Given what I know about test/inventory development, I am highly skeptical of their offerings. After all, the competitive advantage of that site is the "empirical basis" of their matches.
\"My name is El Nino which in spanish means.... The Nino!\" - Chris Farley
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04-27-2005, 10:04 PM
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I had the same experience as Jason and actually read his story before trying eHarmony, so I didn't take it as a blow when there were no matches. If the company doesn't find a match according to its parameters, then refusing is in their interest as it keeps their success rate up.
Having gone through other personality instruments, I usually come out pretty even across multiple areas. Usually that means I'm labeled as "hard to read." So I'm not surprised I don't fit neatly into eHarmony's categories, which I'm guessing are pretty similar to most other personality instruments.
Anyone who isn't confused really doesn't understand the situation. - Edward R. Murrow
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04-27-2005, 10:16 PM
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Neil
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Just signed up for the three day free trial at Match.com, and I got the same story you guys did. Zero matches according to the personality trait search. I even tried modifying it. The only other option is to search for people in and around town, but that's a longer process, heh.
Plus, when they see my picture, they might just go running . |
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04-27-2005, 10:27 PM
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Never tried the e-dating thing. But it sounds like women don't care to much for HTF guys. |
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04-28-2005, 07:24 AM
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IMO, these services primarily work because they ease people into a relationship via limited internet contact (vs the larger step of cold calling a phone number in someone's personal ad). The 'matchmaking' is so-so at best...
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04-28-2005, 12:00 PM
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I tried Match for about 6-8 months with mixed success. The personality and physical attraction profiling wasn't very accurate. It picked up some of my traits, but was dead wrong on others. I just turned those filters off and made my own searches. I made a couple "fine-tuned" searches and then after shopping for "fresh meat" with those, I'd go into my broader search. In the broad range search, I'd only constrain by age and females looking for males. The best way to get what you're looking for is to start with one of those methods of searching and then peruse pictures and the actual written portion of their profiles.
FYI -- you can join match for free and post a profile, but you will only be able to send/recieve "winks". You won't be able to email anyone.
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04-28-2005, 12:03 PM
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My experience on eHarmony was quite a bit different. I had previously used Match.com and (at least in the Boston area) was completely underwhelmed. I'd rate the quality of the matches and the type of people I met as barely above what I'd find in a singles bar.
eHarmony was quite different. I recieved quite a few matches and went on dates with a number of women who were very compatible with me. It might depend on your area, but it could also depend on your search criteria. A common problem I've heard of is setting your search radius too low.
Oh, and I met my fiancée there too. We're getting married in June. We both know that we would likely have never met otherwise and there's no question that both of us have never been with someone so compatible.
Pretty much everyone we've recommended it to has had good luck as well. A friend just got engaged to someone he met there and my fiancée's step brother is seriously dating someone he met on eHarmony.
Like anything, you have to work at it. I did and I couldn't be happier. I'd recommend it to anyone who's serious about finding a mate.
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