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Dealing with neighbors - when does too much become *too* much?

Since I got home from work at about 7pm I've been listening to my next door neighbor's beagle howl. He hasn't stopped and they haven't lifted a finger to stop him. This has been going on since about three months after they got him - or nearly a year. They got him, they say, because their 7-year old girl wanted a dog. Of course, he was too much for her to handle and sadly they now they basically ignore him. He spends most evenings tied out on a short leash on their concrete driveway. The poor dog doesn't even get to be in the grass!

I love dogs and he's a nice, though completely undisciplined, dog. At least they aren't letting him run wild anymore. Before they leashed him they used to just let him out. He'd run over to the fence around my yard and bark at my dogs. (I fenced in the meadow in my backyard when I bought the house so my dogs would have a safe place to be in and so they wouldn't annoy the neighbors.)

Then there's the dead electric stove that has sat on at the edge of their grass (by the road) for about four months ago. I've checked and the town doesn't take them away unless you pay $20. Obviously he hasn't done that. Then there's the dead car that has sat out for about five months with a spray-painted "$350 or best offer" sign on it. And we live on a cul-de-sac in a very rural neighborhood. Other than the mailman and our own friends, virtually no one drives by.

I try to be a nice neighbor and have suggested ways to get rid of the car (charity, donating to a high school shop class, etc). No, he's convinced that some random lost person will see his sign on the piece of junk and buy it off of him. Same for the broken electric stove. He figures that either the garbage men will eventually take it (out of pity?) or someone will drive by and take it away for him.

So my question is, when is too much *too* much? When do you crack and stop being the nice neighbor and, for example, call the SPCA or the cops. Become a jerk over him trashing up the street, etc? I like where I live and I don't want to develop an adversarial relationship with my next door neighbor, but...damn!

Has anyone had a similar situation? How did you deal with it?

-greg

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Philip Hamm

People complain about them, but it's situations like this that make me glad I'm in a neighborhood with an HOA.

You should call the SPCA for the good of the dog and tell them the story. Beagles howl and like to be outside (I've had one), but that doens't sound right.

I can't help with the car or stove - hey there may be a county ordinance that if the car is sitting unmoved and parked it can be classified as "abandoned" and hauled away. Call the local police about that.

Philip Hamm
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Eric_L

You have to choose between these:

1) Call the authorities re garbage/abandoned car / noise pollution / abused dog. Adversarial relationship

2) Resign yourself to the fact that you likeyour location more than you hate your neighbor. Do nothing.

3) Decided oyou hate you neighbore more than you love your location. Move.

In college I had something worse - noisy roomates. I discovered that 100watts of radio static - white noise is fairly easy to sleep though.

Steve_Tk

You have to talk to your neighbor, plain and simple. Don't let people take advantage of you. If they think it's ok for their dog to sit out their and howl 24/7, then they don't give a shit about you. Normal people would be embarrassed because the thought would actually cross their mind, "I wonder if that yapping is annoying to my neighbors?" Talk to them, then take it further.

You are already being too nice anyway. You can do it in a polite and assertive way without causing a problem. But don't say anything like you will have to do XXX if they don't solve it. Ask them politely, if that doesn't work then take it further. Most people just don't give a shit about anyone but themselves. Either that, or they are just stupid.

That reminds me of the morons I can see down the road that listen to their stereo in their car, in the street, so that everyone in the area can hear it. If I can here it from here, then I know damned well it's too loud down there. Last I checked they had not opened a club on the street. The point is, they never even think or care if all that noise is actually bothering people.

DonnyD

You're neighbor has dismissed the idea of getting along with you so why should you worry about getting along with him?

I have one of those types too.... and after a year of listening to his BS, a situation finally arose that led to him no longer coming around me!
We live on a new cul-de-sac that hasn't been paved yet (maybe this month-after a year!) and I noticed this neighbor of mine changing his oil one day and he just walked out to the gravel and poured the used oil out on the ground. I just came unglued as that was so stupid. His son and my son play all in that area and this guy just didn't give a sh** about 1) polluting the ground 2) exposing our children to an environmental hazard. When I confronted him, he was speechless and gave some lame excuse. I told him he just never looks beyond his own nose and suggested he clean up the oil or I would see that he had too. Digging in that gravel didn't look like it was too much fun!
Since then, he hasn't spoken to me and it is true bliss. He has been such a neighborhood loudmouth and know it all that I am glad a situation arose that put a stop to having to put up with him.
We have a responsibility to be good neighbors and your neighbors have that same responsibility too. As a poster above wrote, you really have to talk with this guy as this situation seems to be bothering you a lot. There is no reason to keep going with something that puts stress on yourself.

Jerry Almeida

You should talk to some of your other neighbors about the troublemaker. Maybe you can subtly convince one of them to,



and that way someone else can have the adversarial relationship.

Tony Whalen

I have a neighbour that tends to leave their nice dog outside alone a great deal of the time. It was underfed, and hardly given any attention. They claimed they got the dog for their kids. (Their kids are around 2 & 4.)

I called the SPCA. I have no problem doing this.

As for the car & stove, all you can do is check local laws and bylaws. I live in the city, and you simply cannot do that. A car that doesn't move for a certain period of time is considered abandoned, and can be removed.

Good luck!

Eric_L

"I noticed this neighbor of mine changing his oil one day "

Heh, reminds me of an embarrasing moment. I grew up in a very rural area way back when pollution was what made indians cry by the freeway. Used oil was found to be spectacular weed control! As soon as I could hold a wrench dad had me change the oil on our cars and tractor.
The spent oil just went under the tree where the most weeds grew!

DOH!

The worse part was attending college in a not-nearly-so-rural-and-backwards area. Go to change my oil one day and look - no weed tree! Crap! Now what? Ahhh - a gutter!

Luckily a neighbor was kind enough to catch me in the act and KINDLY educated this bumpkin what you're really supposed to do with spent oil.

I'm eternally grateful not only for the education, but also the kindness. I truely was naive.

Malcolm R

In some rural areas, used oil was also spread on dirt roads to keep the dust down. We had a neighbor that used to do this (20 years ago).

JamesHl

Call the SPCA. Doing whatever else you want is optional. In your area I'm not sure you have much legal recourse, but perhaps if you could figure out some way of getting either or both items to block the road and call someone to have them removed/towed that could accomplish something.