I am not a "buy it used fan" either.
You have a lot of good choices for $3000.
Sherwood Newcastles P965 and A965 are good. The Pre-pro is getting great reviews.
http://www.sherwoodamerica.com/nc_cat_hts.html
Rotel 1068 and 1075
Adcom 860II and any of their amps
http://audioadvisor.com/store/mfglis...g=ADCOM&Page=2
or
http://audioadvisor.com/store/produc...%20Power%20Amp
Any of Outlaws amps.
The B&K ref50 can be had for < 2000 and you can add an amp from Adcom or Outlaw
My dealer is selling new v3 Anthem AVM20's for $2000.
You might be able to find similar offers in your areas.
I know Cary has their pre-amp but it might be a litle closer to 3 by itself.
http://www.caryaudio.com/products/cinema/cinema6.shtml
Don't be afraid to mix and match either.