Where is a good place for a 1st date?

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  1. Rob Lutter

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    ok guys, I am finally (for the lack of a better word) asking a girl out on a date... it is only my senior year har har har [​IMG]
    Anyways... I was wondering, where is a good place to take a girl on the first date? I am thinking a movie with some dinner afterwards... what do you guys think?
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    The standard first date... sounds pretty good...
    If i were you, i'd do something less ordinary... Maybe a walk in some quiet romantic place... Park? beach? under the moonlight (if weater permits)... or a Dinner-Picnic... [​IMG]
    but what would i know.. im in grade 11 and haven't gone on a date yet... [​IMG]
     
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    Hey, Thursday is my day as well. I'm thinking dinner at a comfortable resturant. The hard part is finding somewhere she will feel comfortable eating (Italian is a hard sell if she's on a diet).
    Always see the movie before you invite them to it. It helps to ensure a good response.
    The best thing is that what you do makes little difference. Be yourself and be flexible.
    Good luck (and wish me luck while you're at it)
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  4. SteveGon

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    A good place for a first date?
    Kneejerk, hormones-take-over answer: your bed. [​IMG]
    But....dinner and a movie is a good start. Just be cool and good luck! [​IMG]
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  5. Rob Lutter

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    Do something that will allow you to have discussions with her. A movie is a good first date, but obviously you won't get to commiserate with her for those two hours.
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    The first date is a snap comapred to what I've dealt with...Seems whenever I start dating someone, her birthday pops up within a month of going out for the first time. Hard as hell to balance between too little and too much.
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    I like the second dates best. This time I ask the girl if she wants to come to my place instead of the theater to watch a movie. I always get a funny look when she sees that we have to sit on the bed mattress because the home theater is in my bedroom. However, once we get into the movie and all is comftorable, I go in for the kill. It usually doesn't take long until...well...you get the idea [​IMG]
    I don't know about the first date Rob except that it can cost a lot of cash but to me the second one is where its at.
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    Do something totally unexpected! every girl is expecting a movie and maybee a dinner. but you have to stand out. Hire a Limo, and take her out to a Jazz festival or similar, even a Museum during the day. if all goes well, the evening will take care of its self.
    Trust me, it works. (it works wonders on older women, every girlfriend of mine has been 10 or more years older than me [​IMG])
    When your at the festival etc, etc, buy her a gift out of the blue. and buy yourself an identical gift as well. tell her it is a lasting reminder of your first day together.
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    How well do you know her? If you go to school with her and maybe know each other a little already, the movie/dinner thing sounds good. If not, I'd recommend maybe miniature golfing or bowling or something. Something that stimulates a little more conversation than a movie and "Oh my mom made a horrible meatloaf once" story over dinner [​IMG]
     
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    Is there a fair in town? The fair is a perfect first date -- you can walk around together for a couple of hours, eat crappy food, ride some rides. And most importantly, you'll be surrounded by countless topics of conversation. Awkward silence is the culprit in most first dates gone wrong.
    And speaking of awkward silence . . . try to spend most of the date asking good questions. Get her talking about herself.
    Have fun.
     
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    I'd say "keep it cheap"!
    You don't need to go over the edge. A limo is WAY to much.
    How about a light dinner, a movie, then a coffee or brew so you can talk about the movie or each other.
    LL cool B
     
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    An amusement park. Lots of time to talk while you wait in line for the rides. She can let her hair down.
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    The movie thing is easy, but personally I prefer something where you can talk without a lot of interruption. So dinner kinda works, but the last first date I went on, we went for a walk around one of the lakes in Minneapolis. I didn't know her before we dated so this was a good chance to get to know her and decide if I actually like her. After the walk we had a drink at a nearby bar (damn yuppie restaurants), stopped at a nearby bookstore for a bit, then we went dancing. We both had a lot of fun.
     
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    Ive gone on 3 dates since my breakup:
    1.Dinner,movie,walk along Ft Lauderdale Beach(I was visiting Florida and was setup on a blind date,she recently moved there but hadnt been to the beach yet)
    2.Dinner(which we got on the subject of music, and I told her how piano lessons as a kid taught me to love classical music),brought her to my apt and gave her about 10 clssical cd's(I have hundreds), then a late movie.
    3.Frank Frazetta Museum(she likes art [​IMG] ),dinner, movie
    This was all day date.
    I say keep it simple. If you live somewhere theres alot to do, of course there are more opportunites to do something interesting. I live about a hour from NYC and a night there can be expensive so I wouldnt do that until I was dating the person.
    Im not cheap or anything but also believe you shouldnt spend "too much",especially if you date often-I know people who blow their rent and car payments trying to make a good impression on dates, and if nothing comes of it..well, I look at it as wasting your money.
    My last peice of advice is go into this expecting nothing other than some company for a few hours.Dont stress, dont think too much just go have fun.This was a huge realization for me, and Ive enjoyed dates alot more since-just think how suprised and pleased youll be if you do get along and want to see her again.
    If you dont hit it off, just go the the next one.
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    Lots of good tips here. I'll add my five bucks worth.
    Be yourself. Have fun. Don't get caught up in trying to romance her. Instead, have fun with her. Treat her like a lady, for sure, but otherwise try to pretend she's one of your buddies. Trust me, when guys in high school try to be romantic, you often end up looking needy, or just plain odd. At least, I did. [​IMG] If you look at the "popular" crowd - the guys who have no trouble getting a girl - you'll notice one common trait: They really don't care that much. They don't spend hours coming up with schemes to make sure the date goes off perfectly and when it doesn't work out with a girl, they blow her off and move on to the next one without a thought. Half the time they treat the girls like dirt, so you have to wonder why they keep flocking to them...
    You want to go that route, except, leave out the part where you treat her like dirt. Treat her with the utmost in respect, but don't "fall in love" with her. Decide ahead of time that you're not going out on a date, you're just hanging out together. Don't think about a second date, in fact, if you can convince yourself that this is a one shot deal and you're not ever going to ask her out again, all the better. Then when things go really well you can change your mind, but you won't be putting yourself under so much pressure trying to do everything right.
    Speaking of that, don't try to do everything right. The idea is to get comfortable with her, and not be tense. Work on the comfort thing first and worry about the intimacy later. Women really aren't all that mysterious. They're a different species, to be sure, but in their free time, most do a lot of the same things you do. Find out what she's interested in, tell her what you're interested in, and then share those interests with each other. If you're into home theater, introduce her to it. If she's into painting her nails, ask her to show you how to paint yours. (Just kidding there) Tell yourself you're hanging out with a new friend that happens to have breasts, and you'll be set.
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    Can I just say you guys are awesome. Thanks for the advice. [​IMG]
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    Arrrggghhh - Double post
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