Chuck Mayer
Senior HTF Member
It took a child because, again, a child provides experiential perspective. I can hear all day long what being in a war is like...but until I've done it, I'll never know. I can be told all day long what playing with a rock band on stage in front of 30,000 is...but until I've done it, I'll never know. Same with being a parent. He opened my eyes to the sacrifices my parents make, and showed me the innate connection between all of us. I was empathetic before. But it's just a new paradigm.
I appreciate where you are coming from. No one likes being told they aren't good enough, their life isn't good enough. Many people in our society attempt to push that mindset on people who want no part of it. My aforementioned friends (the wife is an avowed feminist) are quite open about that. I sympathize. I honestly do. It's not fair, it's irritating, and nothing is worse than overbearing parents who think they know what is "best" for other people. I dislike that mindset as much as you. But being a parent doesn't make people like that...they were elitist before If you have friends like that, then work with them or get new friends I would. You deserve better. Every person's choices should be respected.
But trust me, having a kid does change everything. But it's not for everybody. No one should have kids unless they can make that commitment (or they have an "oops", like my wife and I, and then you have no choice ).
Do I wish I was still single and not a parent? Not really.
Do I wish I could chase some young skirts and do some naughty things? Yup. If you can...enjoy it
Tradeoff,
Chuck
I appreciate where you are coming from. No one likes being told they aren't good enough, their life isn't good enough. Many people in our society attempt to push that mindset on people who want no part of it. My aforementioned friends (the wife is an avowed feminist) are quite open about that. I sympathize. I honestly do. It's not fair, it's irritating, and nothing is worse than overbearing parents who think they know what is "best" for other people. I dislike that mindset as much as you. But being a parent doesn't make people like that...they were elitist before If you have friends like that, then work with them or get new friends I would. You deserve better. Every person's choices should be respected.
But trust me, having a kid does change everything. But it's not for everybody. No one should have kids unless they can make that commitment (or they have an "oops", like my wife and I, and then you have no choice ).
Do I wish I was still single and not a parent? Not really.
Do I wish I could chase some young skirts and do some naughty things? Yup. If you can...enjoy it
Tradeoff,
Chuck