Hey all! First time I've done one o' these "personal" type threads. God knows I've participated in enough of 'em. Okay..a little background. I'm having a problem with a buddy of mine. We've been friends for nearly 20 years now, and we've been through thick-n-thin together. We've had fun, we've fought, and so forth. He was one of my "best-people" at my wedding, and I at his. I think it's safe to say we know each other pretty well. He knows I'm stubborn as hell, and I know he's a tad egotistical. We're both immature as hell in each other's presence...we have a lot of fun together. Basically, he's a brother to me, in all ways except blood. To the problem: The four of us (us and our wives) used to get together on a semi-regular basis. They live just down the block from us, so it's not as if getting together is a problem. (We often got together at their house, as they have a young son.) Lately, we haven't seen much of them. In fact, we hadn't heard anything from them for a while. Granted, we didn't call them much either. He dropped by one day to return a couple of things he'd borrowed. He seemed cold and distant, and left rather quickly. (He usually stays for a few minutes to yap with us.) He left, and we thought..."okay... what just happened here?" It was odd. Then, a few days later...he and I were playing with some mutual friends on XBox LIVE. The others dropped off one-by-one, until only he and I remained. We started to talk while fragging each other. I expressed that I thought he/they were mad at us for some reason. He explained that we'd said we'd call them for a get-together, and that they'd waited for us to call. When we didn't call, they thought we were "too busy" (which can happen) or were displeased with them for some reason. We laughed, and I thought this was all done. We didn't call each other, and we both thought the other was annoyed for some reason. Such silliness. Or so I thought. This past Friday we threw a big party. It's our annual Christmas/Birthday party. (My wife and I both have late-December birthdays...) We asked my buddy if we could borrow his punch bowl, and he brought it over before the party started. My wife gave him a big hug, and said "why don't we see you these days?" He responded with "Well, I was waiting to see if you called. You did, so we're coming tonight." We were both floored. What is this, high school? "I wasn't gonna call you until you called me first?" He left, and we were both furious. What kind of childish BS was this? I felt like either A) saying "thank you for honoring us with your presence, oh sirrah" or B) telling him not to bother. (Thankfully I did neither.) Anyway, our party came and went...and a good time was had by all. My pal seemed to enjoy himself as well. Yesterday was my ACTUAL birthday. I haven't heard a peep from my pal. Not a call, not an e-card, not an email...nothing. I actually find that I'm a little hurt. We haven't been good at calling them. We often aren't good at calling our friends, and we know that. However, all our other friends REMAIN our friends, whether we don't talk to them for a week or a month or even a year. However, my friend of nearly two decades suddenly decides to give our friendship a little "test" and see if WE would call HIM, and seemingly we weren't going to see him until WE initiated contact? (Remember, he lives down the block here...) My initial reaction was "I'm 36 years old... I don't have time for this high-school BS" and I've been pissed with him since. So, am I over-reacting here? Are we the bad ones for not maintaining contact? Or is he being childish? Any thoughts, oh wise HTFers?